Post # 1
Hey bees, have you read/heard this book? I listened to the audiobook a while ago, but just yesterday decided to go on the website and quiz myself to see what’s my language. I also sent it to SO and very oddly and unexpectedly it turned out that he has the same primary language as I do. I think that should make things easier on us if we try to communicate in the same way. But I still think he somehow messed it up because I just don’t see him using that language lol
Anyway, our primary language is quality time, and my secondary was words of affirmation. What are yours and how do you think they fit into your relationship? Have you talked to your SO about it?
And if you haven’t heard about it and/or want to find out, check out the website:
Post # 3
Opposite of you 🙂 Words of Affirmation is #1 for me and Quality time is second.
Post # 4
Words of Affirmation and Physical Touch for me.
My husband’s is Quality Time and Words of Affirmation.
Post # 5
I am quality time too! Thanks for sharing this 🙂
Post # 6
Acts of service is my number 1.
Post # 7
Quality time! I still can’t really figure out my FI’s though! I think he’s words of affirmation, because he is really good about doing that for me, but he could also be physical touch or acts of service…
Post # 8
I took it awhile ago. I think it was Words of Affermation, with Physical Touch and Acts of Service tied.
Post # 9
I’m quality time first, acts of service second. DH is physical touch first, then quality time. That book was such an eye opener for us. I was annoyed at DH for not planning nights out, not doing certain things for me, etc., but I was annoyed because he wasn’t speaking my love language. And that made me not want to do physical touch, depriving him of his. Reading that book was such a help, and has been great for our marriage. He actually enjoyed taking the test, and we read the book aloud to each other. 🙂
Post # 10
SO & I both got Quality Time as primary & Physical Touch as our secondary!
He reluctantly took it after I bugged him to do it.
Post # 11
FI and I are exact opposites. I am receiving gifts first, then words of affirmation, and he is physical touch, and then quality time.
Post # 12
My top was physical touch, then quality time. SO’s top was physical touch, then quality time tied with words of affirmation.
Post # 13
Mine was words of affirmation and quality time–his was words of affirmation and physical touch.
I loved this book a lot. It was so insightful and helpful.
Post # 14
I am quality time and 2nd Acts of Service… I wonder what my FI is!!
Post # 15
Mine is receiving gifts first, quality time second. Which makes 100% sense to me! I’m not materialistic, I don’t demand things, but I love when DH puts thought into what he gets me, or gets me small things ‘just because’. And I do absolutely love just spending time with him.
I’ll have him do his soon! 🙂
Post # 16
Words of Affirmation was my #1 by a longshot.