Hey Ladies, I just want to come at this from a devil’s advocate point of view;
He’s said he definitely wont propose until after school is over in 2 semesters. Fair enough, and reasonable too, that’s only 8 months. But honestly, if he’s waiting to be done his degree, it’s likely because of money. He’s not going to be able to save up enough money for a ring (responsibly) without working for several months, which means it’s going to be a lot more like a year and a half from now.
In my experience, even the above is not true. Most guys say “after x” and because we really want it, we hear “immediately, or very shortly after x” while what they really mean is “I am not ready to think about this seriously or in detail until after x” — This could account for a lot longer than your estimate.
Don’t prep yourself to wait it out “for only 8 months” prep yourself to want him more than being married (I struggle with this every day, so I feel ya, I know it’s hard) we just have to continue to wait until at least the “8 months” are over, and then have a genuine conversation about compromise.
I am ready to be engaged at 22 (now), by SO wants to be “married some time around 30” – well, compromise works both ways. I would wait until 30 for him, because I love him. But just as I cannot force him to marry me at 22 because it’s what I want, he should not be allowed to force me to wait until 30 just because that’s what he wants.
“I just don’t feel ready” has always been a cop out as far as I’m concerned. I have spoken to SO about it, and he agrees; and has worked on consciously saying other things as rejoinder, because he realizes how peeved it makes me, and likely makes many waiting women. I need real reasons, not wishy washy things. And he’s given me real reasons, and after each thing gets ticked off the ‘pre-marriage bucket list’ we revisit, and we discuss what things are “hard limits” and “soft limits” things we must do, and things we would be okay doing after marriage too.
Sorry for the super long post 😛 Chin up dear!