Post # 1
I’m just back from a four day break over Xmas in a Castle that was my present from my SO. It was fabulous and all my girlfriends believed he would pop the question over our break. On Xmas day we went for a walk around the castle grounds and then for a drive in the countryside, when we got back he asked me to close my eyes and look in the glove box for my present.
Sure enough there was a ring box but not in the way eveyone thinks. It was an “I love you and want to be with you” ring. We had a long talk about our future together and timelines and due to previous bad experience he has had we have decided that we want to wait another year before he actually asks me to marry him.
I admit it’s a strange situation but he felt he wanted to show me a commitment and isn’t quite ready to marry which is fine with me, we had a fantastic time just the 2 of us for the Xmas period and he’s taking me away again somewhere else for New Year as well so that we can work on spending more quality time together as a couple (something that’s not easy to do with out jobs).
So there you have it bees a Xmas ring with no proposal but one very happy still waiting bee as we have made progress and talked openly about the future and what we both want.
Now for the compulsory hand on the steering wheel ring picture
Post # 3
What a beautiful and unique ring!
Post # 4
@RunnerBride13: thank you, he’s taking inspiration from one of my best friends who has 3 bridal sets and this is his idea of a starter ring. I’m fairly sure when he does actually pop the question it will be with another ring
Post # 5
Wow, I think that is great! The ring is very beautiful!
Post # 6
Ha, I would be irked (only for a moment) if that happened to me — but I think it was very sweet and that ring is just shockingly beautiful and unique. 🙂
Post # 7
That’s so sweet of your SO to do what he can right now. It’s so much better for him to wait until he is ready to propose than to just propose because of outside pressure. And such a lovely ring!
Post # 8
I’m so happy that you could have such a good conversation, and that he was the one to initiate it. It’s also great news that you are now on the same page and happy with this arrangement. Congratulations on that talk, and wow! what a beautiful ring!
Post # 9
All that matters is that you two are happy with your relationship. Pretty ring!
Post # 10
Well, it’s progress in your relationship! Congrats on the gorgeous ring!
Post # 11
My Fi gave me a “promise ring” (weird term for a 40 year old) with the same words your SO used. I had mixed feelings for a month. Thrilled we’d moved forward, sad it wasn’t engagement. But after a month I loved that ring and all it symbolized. We got engaged one year later and it’s a right hand ring now. So happy for you!!!!
Post # 12
@SomedaymrsWDS: thank you so much, it’s lovely to hear of someone else who was in a similar situation. I was a little confused when the ring was produced and had to make sure we were both clear on its meaning.
Out of interest did you wear yours on your left hand and if so how did you explain it to others? I’m a bit worrried about going back to work after the holidays and people jumping to the conclusion that we got engaged.
Post # 13
@GIJen: pretty ring. it was nice of him to let you know the meaning of the ring and what his future intentions will be. how long have you been together?
Post # 14
Beautiful ring! That is really pretty and a Christmas castle vacation together sounds like a dream trip, so romantic!
In answer to your question though, my advice would be to wear it on the right hand for the time being. (I’m assuming your SO did not specifically ask you to wear it on the left hand?)
Otherwise you will be answering a lot of questions about being engaged, which will put you in the position of discussing private details of your relationship with others.
Another benefit of wearing it on the right hand is that it won’t take away from the excitement when you finally do get engaged and have your engagement ring.
Post # 15
@GIJen: Beautiful! ring!! And the trip sounds amazing!!! Incidentally, I’d wear it on your right hand just to avoid confusion. Have fn at New Years Eve!
Post # 16
@mypinkshoes: We’ve been together just over 2 years, we’re both older than the average bee and been married before which may be why he is taking his time and I totally understand that which is why I am so happy that we had such a frank and open discussion about the future and are both on the same page