Post # 1
So I am about 7-8 days before my perdiod is due to arrive. I am on a 28 day cycle and I am very, very regular – even having thryroid surgery in Febuary did not impact or delay arrival. I can tell you exactly when I ovulate, almost down to the minute. I don’t temp, but I do chart and I am just very in tune with my body.
I guess I am just really starting to stress, not like with anxiety yet, but almost. Why haven’t we conceived yet? We don’t dtd every day during my fertile period, but we do several times that week.. always the days before and usually around and after ovulation.. We could absolutly do it more, but I don’t want to freak him out and hound him for sex – plus, from what I’ve read and researched, excessive sex during that time doesn’t really help anyway.
I know it would be way too soon to exibit any type of symptoms but I have been excessivly tired this week, bloated (from eating way too much food) and headachy. All of this can be explained with the cold rainy weather we’ve had here anyway, plus I should be pms-ing soon anyway.
I just turned 31 and I was really hoping we would have been KU’d by now, this cycle is sort of the last cycle that I wanted to try up to until the end of 2015 due to several international trips DH and I have planned for late next year. I would have been glad to bring a several month old baby on these trips, however, a newborn is really out of the question and I know you can’t travel after your 2nd trimester and really who wants to travel when they feel tired and preganant before 3rd tri??
I ordered some FR’s but I don’t think they will need to be put to use this month. I am feeling sort of hopeless at this point.. I wanted to keep this fun and casual, not stress over it and all that. But with all my health “complications” that I have experienced in recent years, I am starting to let doubts and fears creep in. My’s dreams at night haven’t helped much either and well.. yeah. Anyway.. That’s it. If you read this, thanks for reading.
If you want to chime in with success stories please feel free.. Any words of encouragement, etc. will be appreciated.
Post # 2
Wait.. are you TTC or NTNP? Your post sounds like you’re TTC but the title says NTNP..
You’re not charting..are you using some means of determining if and when you are ovulating?
5 months is not many cycles to be trying. Typical times are about 6 months to a year in healthy couples. I wouldn’t get frustrated yet.
As for plans to travel internationally with a small baby…you may want to rethink that. I would think it would be quite risky to do so with a child who isn’t fully vaccinated, and would also be tortuous on an infants’ sleep schedule.
If you just had thyroid surgery in February, it is very possible that it could be impacting your cycle as well…depending on what exactly the surgery was to accomplish.
Good luck! I hope you succeed and have a BFP soon!
Post # 3
I am charting, like I stated in my OP – just not temping. I have been charting for about 2 years now. I totally agree the surgery could have thrown things off, in fact, I know it did, but only from the surgical aspect of it. Hormonally nothing has changed as I have been on hormone replacememnt therapy for about 3 years now.
NTNP is quickly evolving into TTC. I suppose the intention was always to get KU’d I just feel pressure now that time is quickly passing and we do have those trips lined up for EOY 2015.. Bringing a 6mo-ish baby would have been acceptable as we are not going to any 3rd world type countries then anyway.
Post # 4
Starling13: Ok, I was a little confused by charting but not temping!
I would try to temp or use OPK’s to see if your body is trying to ovulate (if it doesn’t overwhelm you, I know it can just add to the stress)
. ..have your doctors told you whether or not the HRT would effect your chances in conceiving? Maybe there is some interference there? I know a lot of thyroid problems can interfere with conceiving. Have you had much for doctor involvement yet?
Even if you’re not going to third world countries, there is still a risk. Babies that age cannot be protected against things like mumps, which is becoming a problem in many North American & European countries….but I digress from your orginal thread, so I will drop it there.
Post # 5
I actually have established relationships with both my OB and Endocrinoligist.. Both have given me the clear and said I am otherwise considered healthy and able. The only thing is that if I do find myself KUd I will need to increase my T4 replacement to accomodate the baby..
Its just that now I am about to end my 5th cycle without occupancy I am starting to have these doubts and little voices in my head, and honestly, I just sort of was one of those women who didn’t realize that it would be so much more difficult than envisioned. I agree that an OPK will be in order for this upcoming cycle.
Post # 6
Starling13: I can understand your frustration and I know it’s hard for lots of women when they expect to get KU within a few months of “trying”. But PP is correct with her stats, 6 months to a year is totally nomal even for healthy couples & you mentioned a few health issues?
My BIL is a physician & he gave this example…my grandparents were married for 60 yrs, & lets say gramma was fertile for at least 26 of those. They never used BC & had a very healthy sex life & she had 8 children. Lets say 9 months gestation & 1 yr of BC by EBF for each child just to be modest: that’s almost 16 yrs when she “couldn’t” get KU. That leaves a whoping 10 years during which she didn’t get pregnant & was not preventing at all, not even with NFP. And she was a normal, healthy woman. No matter what they say in junior high, it’s just not that easy for most women to get pregnatn & it usually takes more than a few tries. I know that story is confusing & maybe long-winded, I’m not the best writer but it did make my SIL feel better and they have been trying for 2 yrs for their 2nd.
Although I’m not a charting expert, don’t temp myself & have never TTCd. I have used OPKs in the past just to see if I was ovulating and when trying to prevent pregnancy and was so happy to see those positives just so I knew it was happening. Well lo & behold, I was quickly told by other bees that those OPKs, my change in CM & CP did not mean a thing. Other than medical tests, only temping could tell me for sure if I was ovulating. So I’m curious as to the methods you are using for charting, care to share?
Also, if you have thyroid issues, could that affect your cycle (besides the surgery itself) even if you are on HRT?
Good luck and those trips sound awesome, I love to travel. Tell us where are you going so we can vicariously live through you!
Post # 7
MaggieF: Awe!! Thanks for the story! It actually DOES make a lot of sense. 8 children!? Good lord you must have a lot of cousins!
The only method I use is charting and observation. My CM does change and I usually get a slight migraine type headache 48 hours prior to when I get slightly crampy – which is around the time I would be ovulating according to my FF app and all signs point towards accuracy. I haven’t temped in the past, but that and OPKs are natually the next steps I will need to take.
DH and I love to travel! He has family all over the world and evert 2 years we all get together for an international reunion in one of the countries that relatives reside in. Next year is Japan! I was really looking forward to the possibilty of bringing the newest cousin the the gathering.. but we shall see. Like I said, if it doesnt happen soon, like in the next cycle, then I am closing for business.
Post # 8
I am sorry you are getting frustrated….I think there are lots of women who can appreciate that! I too, thought getting pregnant would be immediate, as soon as we started “trying”. It is hard not to feel like you are failing.
I used to chart my cycles and DTD alone when we weren’t TTC. I started temping 2 months ago and WOW has it given me so much information about myself. I always thought I knew when I ovulated, turns out I was off by a day or so. Maybe you could try adding that? Plus, it is helpful to bring those temps and charts to your Dr to get help.
I find these boards and others to be very helpful – just to know that you are not alone in your frustration.
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 9
I’m confused, you say that you are NTNP, but your whole posts sounds like you are TTC, since you are activly trying for a baby.
Regardless, sometime these good things take time, best of luck!
Post # 10
SweetFlower: It does sound like that, doesn’t it!? LOL – The things we learn about ourselves after we write it all out. I should probably start journaling again to get my thoughts sorted out. It didn’t start out as activily TTC but like I mentioned, it evolved into it. It wasn’t like one day there was a light that switched on and we were like “lets TTC”..
hassle_J: Awe! Thanks, Girl! The boards are super supportive, from what I have seen. Charting always seemed complicated enough, and now adding the temping and OPKing aspect of it just seems so overwhelming. All if it.. it is just so overwhelming.
Like PP said though.. Good things can take a while to manifest, but once they do its so worthwhile. I never knew how much I wanted a baby until last month when my period showed up…
Post # 11
Starling13: Temping might seem overwhelming when it’s new but it’s really so very simple. I’m on my second cycle charting via temps and CM and just ordered some OPKs to use as well. Give temping a shot and I’m sure you’ll be thrilled at what you learn about your body even more than what you’ve already observed! If you have any questions the charters of the hive threads are filled with charting bees who love helping others and chart stalking our friends! 🙂
Post # 12
we are on the 8th cycle of activly trying. seeing an RE now.
are you still NTNP or actively trying?
Post # 13
- Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON
We are going on our 4th cycle and I too thought I would get pregnant immediately! I wish we TTC earlier because it is very frustrating!
Post # 14
Starling13: I think you should definitely add temping. It is actually a lot easier and very reassuring. Regarding the time it takes to get pregnant, based on my research the majority (70%) get pregmany within 6 cycles and 85% in one year. I was TTC 6 cycles when I first went to get tested. If I were you Id temp and use OPKs for a couple of cycles to confirm O and if you are not KU, get some testing then. My theory is, it doesn’t hurt and will serve to reassure that all is ok.