Post # 1
FI was really lucky to have tons of cildhood friends that remain his best friends still. There are a ton of them. For example- one of our good friends passed away over the summer and 50 of these friends showed up at a restaraunt after the funeral to spend time together. FIFTY people. All friends.
Anyway! The plan was to have 6 BMs and 6 GMs, but last night FI asked if he could have 12, “one on each arm!” I think it’s hilarious and would also really mean alot to him if we did this b/c he’s so strangely close with his friends. I love all his friends too, so it’s no burden to me or anything. I can only see a few things bad with this idea: increased costs for rehearsal dinner (but we are having a bonfire/pizza party by request of FI), increased cost of boutineers (but I am making them already so thats cheap), increased cost of GM gifts (but FI said he would pay for them) and extra space needed at the BP table on the stage at our venue (not sure if the stage is long enough!), and an imbalance in our pictures (but wtf who cares about that)
This really does seem feasible, and even if the stage isn’t long enough for 20 people, we can work it out. It would just mean alot to him if I said yes. I also think it would be so funny to have one guy on each arm of the BM’s when they walk back down the isle.
I know it’s not traditional to have one GM on each arm, but I don’t care. I’d rather make the day about what I want and FI. He barely asks for anything in this wedding, he’s going with the flow, so when he does ask for something, I take it very seriously.
So.. can this work? I think it can.. I just need reassurance and advice on any unforseen disaster. I’m also not telling my mom or g-ma cause they will have a cow. They are only worried about money. blah blah blah.
Post # 3
This definitely sounds like a great idea!
The only downside I can think of is, maybe some of his non-GM friends might be hurt. I mean, when a guy has 12 groomsmen and you don’t make the cut… you’re kinda #13 on the list at the highest!
Post # 4
I think that sounds like it could be cute.
Post # 5
Ohh Mr.Bee I agree! I did sort of think of that but, after he suggested 12 GMs, he made his dream list up and it was exactly twelve people.. so it was like, destiny! The rest pf the guys in the group aren’t his closest closest friends so I don’t think they’d even have the slightest expectation that they’d be in the BP.
Post # 6
I think it sounds like fun!!!
Post # 7
Ugh, I can totally relate! FI keeps asking people, and he’s not even super close to them! Since he asked his close friend from HS and they were a group of 3 he had to ask the other guy even though they aren’t close and never speak or see each other. Then he had to ask his cousin who he’s not close to only b/c he was in his cousins’ wedding year ago! To Mr. Bee’s point, I tried to warn him that if his side keeps growing, not only is it going to look really weird, but the few guys were weren’t asked are going to get upset. I feel like it’s too late in the game for me to ask more ladies, but I of course only asked 5 who I was super close to. And they all expected it b/c we are super close! Sorry to vent on your thread, I just have been stressing about this lately..
Post # 8
Just something to think about- my FI was in a wedding this summer as a groomsman for one of his really good friends. He was one of 10. He did say that he felt that even though he is really good friends with the groom, when there was 10 of them, it felt like he was just “one of 10” because it was such a circus having so many guys. And there were guys who were “not as good of friends” of the groom there who made comments like “well, since there’s already 10 how come I wasn’t included?”
Your FI might not get into that situation with his friend group, but you might suggest he be prepared just in case he gets into an awkward situation. 🙂
Post # 9
Miss Root- I will definitely talk to him about that! Thanks for the heads up
Post # 10
My FH’s friend did this exact thing. It was pretty amusing wataching 2 dudes walking each girl down the aisle. And they had a 2-tiered “head” table to fit everyone.
Post # 11
@Goldilocks- you mean, they had risers? FI was suggesting that hahaha