Post # 1
Well… my brother in law does alot of cooking for big functions for family anf friends and church so he was going to cater my wedding and as an added bonus they volunteered to do it for free as a wedding present to us.
Well my sister and him apparently got into another huge fight tonight that might end in divorce. (All they ever do is fight so I dont want to sound mean or selfish or insensitive but we go through this a couple times a year since they been together) Im just tired of it all they do is bicker and be mean and bitchy to each other all the time and honestly i think everyone is just sick of it. They need toEither suck it up and get along or just divorce already.
Well needless to say she was told to tell her “F’ing” sister that he isn’t doing the food for my wedding.
So here we have promised people this big meal, because everyone has asked about it and they are looking forward to this huge bbq and we will now have no food. We can’t cook all of that ourselves. We dont know anyone who has the means to cook all of that food. (he has a huge smoker and all these other items he uses) and we have no money. Not only do I not have the money put back to buy the food I was going to have. Because they volunteered to do this for us 8 months ago we have absolutely not one dime put back for food.
So I have no money to buy food and definately no money to pay someone else to cater it. I honestly dont know what I am going to do but I am so upset and stressed
Post # 3
ohh my gosh – that absolutely sucks!!
I would get your family to gather around and brainstorm. Perhaps you can call in a few good friends and family and have them help you do a pot luck?
Or try talking to your sister and see if she is likely to get back together with her husband and this was just another one of their fights? If they are just going to get back together in a day, well maybe they will still do your food after all?
So sorry this has happened! Good luck
Post # 4
omg. i feel terrible for you. start building your brainstorming team now!
Post # 5
Hi, I sent you a PM with some simple BBQ ideas, I hope it helps. Oh, I would also make up a pickle platter, have crispy breadsticks in vases, and watermelon slices, and if you want them, mix cheaper brand of baked beans with your favorite maybe 3:1 ratio. Maybe your sister could make Iced Tea for you, and help put simple salads together. Also, another salad I like that is simple uses canned green and wax beans, kidney beans and oil and vinegar with sugar to taste, and diced onions and green peppers for crunch. Make it ahead. yummy! You could also make a simple salad dressing for the green salad with red wine vinegar and olive oil, wash the grape or cherry tomatoes ahead, but add them just before you serve. Maybe you will get other ideas from the hive. Best Wishes. 🙂
Post # 6
I’m so sorry. Can you ask some of your close friends and family to each contribute a dish or two?
Post # 7
I am so sorry you are going through this. Like the others mentioned above, maybe you can do a potluck instead. I am not sure how many people will be at your wedding, but perhaps word can be spread about your change in plans. Maybe each one can bring their favorite dish instead of a wedding present. Though, it might be a little presumptuous of you to think that they are giving you something in the first place . Maybe saying something like you and the groom will be sharing some of your favorite homemade dishes with them, and to share the love they can bring their favorite dishes too. Just make sure you cover all the courses.
Frankly, I would not go back to your sister to have her make amends with her husband just for the food. I would hate for it to be done to me because I know I will end up resenting that person.
Post # 8
I hope that you figured something out by now. I am sorry for what you’re going through!
Post # 9
I’m going to agree with PPs that recommended a potluck reception. With only 6 days out, it may be your best option and I bet you’ll be surprised at some of the delicious dishes people can whip up. Keep us updated, I’m SO sorry this has happened to you, and best of luck!!!
Post # 10
That is horrible! I also agree potluck sounds like the best idea! Let us know how everything turns out!
Post # 11
just vaguely explain to your family and friends that your caterer backed out and do a potluck! People will understand, I promise, things like this happen. People will help you out because they care about you. Maybe you guys could handle the meat and have everyone bring a side?
Reach out to the rest of your family for help. Maybe they can come up with a good idea that you haven’t thought of?
Post # 12
I am so sorry that you are having to stress out about something like this so close to the wedding. I would definitely start talking to your family, and see what everyone can come up with. These people had an adorable backyard wedding that they cooked with one bbq pit. All of their sides were cold dishes, that didn’t need to be heated up, and the only thing that needed to be cooked were the hamburger patties and sausage. The menu sounds incredible.
Post # 13
OMG, I can’t believe he backed out – that’s horrible!!!
Can you update us on your situation?
I know you said you don’t have the money to hire a caterer, but can your family/friends pitch in to help? Can you ask your BIL, even if he won’t cook, if he would loan you his smoker for the day? Does anyone in your family know of anyone else with a smoker? Or maybe your immediate family could lal bring their grills over, so you could have a few grills going at the same time?
Some BBQ can be made a day or more ahead (and is better that way). Could you have 1 person make a big bowl of cole slaw? How about another person makes macaroni salad and brings that?
And you could buy some of those heavy-duty foil pans (they have them for like $2 at the Christmas Tree Shop) and make a big thing of mac and cheese a few days ahead, freeze it, then reheat it the day of the wedding?
Hamburger patties can be made ahead, frozen in shape, and the thawed and cooked.
I hope everything works out!!!!