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Yep, I have pre-wedding nerves.  Can't keep anything in my stomach type of pre-wedding nerves.  And not about marrying my FI - it's all because my friend, who is our officiant, hasn't gotten the judge to sign off on the order permitting her to do our wedding THIS SUNDAY.  It's not for lack of trying; she was in judges' chambers last Friday (fortunately, she's a lawyer too), but she's unsure if he'll sign it, due to some technicalities in the Virginia statute, and this is even though she's done four other weddings in Virginia (in other jurisdictions, of course).  So we're not sure if our ceremony will actually be "legal" - we're supposed to find out today.

If it's not, since we're honeymooning in Northern California, we're going to plan to drive over to Reno, NV two days after the wedding to make it "legal" - but that will take up an entire day of the honeymoon and I'd REALLY rather not deal with that.

And to add to the stress, I haven't met any of FI's family yet (they live 3000 miles away) and will meet them all this Friday.  And apparently all of the women in his family (future MIL and two future SILs) are freaking out about what to wear to the wedding & RH dinner.  As in, multiple phone calls and emails - I told them not to worry about it, any knee-length dress is fine, including little black dresses.  But they all apparently don't have anything that they think will work.  And I'm also worried because FI has told them a fair bit about me (including that I'm a corporate lawyer, a former debutante, etc.), and they are laid-back people.  I'm a warm friendly gal and I don't want any of them going in with pre-concieved notions about snobby East Coast people and not liking me.  I've talked to them all and I don't get that vibe, but I am still so nervous.

And apparently, also, rambling.  Sorry for the rant!!

In Virginia, judges don't do weddings and there is no justice of the peace option either.  It's a "minister" or nothing.  In her religion, the Ba'hai religion, my friend has done several weddings, so it's not a big deal for her.  Neither FI nor I are particularly religious, and since she's such a good friend, it seemed like the best option.  But apparently the judge here in my county is having a hard time with the Ba'hai faith, even though she brought a librarian from the Northern Virginia Ba'hai center with her to explain it all to the judge.  So I don't think there's any other real option except waiting for the honeymoon if she doesn't get approved.