- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema
Bees, I am in a state of shock.
My entire life my father has never shown any care or consideration towards me. He married my mother to essentialy have a maid and my mother married him basically as an escape from a horrid life in a 3rd world country.
I am an only child and grew up desperately wanting to be Daddy’s little girl.
I believe he is undiagnosed with some sort of social issues as according to his siblings he has always been a little….odd. He lives in his own world and barely speaks to anyone. I have never had what you could call a real conversation with him.
He never attended any of my birthdays, school things, ballet concerts, shows I was in, graduations, nothing.
I basically gave up any hope of him ever caring and don’t go out of my way to speakto him or acknowledge him. It hurt so much wanting to be shown some affection from one’s own parent for 29 years only to be constantly ignored.
So yesterday, was visiting Mum and he out of the blue says” How much do you want for your wedding?” I reply “$20,000” which is $5k above what FI and I are looking at spending. Mum and I chuckle and she rolls her eyes and says “yeah right.”
20 minutes later Mum and I are in the kitchen making coffee and he comes in and says “$15,000”.
Bees, my “non-existant” father is giving us $15,000 for our wedding!!!! I didn’t even know he had any money! I am in a complete state of shock and don’t quite believe it yet.
FI and I are not well off and were going to struggle paying for this wedding ourselves by living on the bones of our arses and saving every penny. All of a sudden we can now breathe again and can by the nicerr healthier bread each week instead of the cheapest, budget loaf!
Can’t quite share this with people in real life as it’s concerning money, so just popped on here to let my thoughts and feelings out!
Did anyone else have someone completely surprise them in a good way when it came to your wedding?
I wasn’t even planning on inviting him to the wedding as he has never beeen involved or wanted any involvement in my life so far, but I guess he’s coming now! lol