Post # 1
I never thought I’d get post-wedding blues…but I did hard core when I got home from the honeymoon. I found myself so angry (almost enraged) with everyone who made our wedding challenging (especially mom and sister, and mother in-law), and so sad that it was over and that it wasn’t perfect. It wasn’t until recently that I was able to watch the video and enjoy it….look back on those memories as fond. I just finally framed a wedding photo and placed it on my dresser. I still haven’t read the entries in the guestbook….oh and I just got around to changing my name.
I started to feel better about things, happy that we had a gorgous wedding….everything we asked for (aside from the drama) appeared as if it was. My husband has been wonderful as always.
But today I couldnt’ help but feel all icky inside when I was sitting in a room and the girls in front of me were talking about tryingo n wedding dresses. =(
Post # 3
you have to let it go. it will make you crazy if you don’t. You said you had a beautiful day and your marriage to your wonderful husband is going great. The honeymoon should have let you focus on what was important . .. your husband and you. You got married in July … do you really want to hang on to the anger forever?
Post # 4
I felt the same way until about the end of August or so (July 6 bride) and all of a sudden I had too many other wonderful things to worry about. My day went perfect because that is the mind set I have myself in. Did some things go wrong? Of course, but do they really matter now almost 6 months later? No. My husband and I are happy together, going to buy a house, and will start ttc here in a few months.
It is sad that the day has ended, but you need to stop with what if’ing this wedding or you will start to find flaws in everything, and that is no way to live. Be happy that the day happened, you looked beautiful, felt good, and married a good man.
Post # 5
@fresitachulita: I think there should be something called “post wedding syndrome!” Seriously wedding planning consumes you then it’s just done….. I got the same way. We are TTC so that has helped a lot to shift my focus. Good luck lady! Your not alone.
Post # 6
It was so long ago, by now, try to let it go…weddings are supposed to last a couple of hours and the stress is supposed to end at the same time the wedding does…enjoy your marriage and your DH and focus on other things now, like maybe decorating your home with beautiful wedding pics.
Post # 7
@fresitachulita: I think this is fairly normal, but as PP have suggested, you need to find a way to let it go.
It makes sense that you’d feel a bit let down and not sure what to do w. yourself. Many women build up the wedding day to epic proportions, and then when it’s over it’s a big void.
I think the best thing you can do is to find something new to focus on. Set some goals. Plan a trip or two.
I always feel crappy for a couple weeks after I go on a vacation… especially if I’ve been looking forward to it for months. We typically make sure we always have something to look forward to so it lessens the letdown feeling a bit. I know vacations aren’t the same as weddings, but basically when you build something up in your mind and then it’s over, it’s always sucky.
Post # 8
I felt the same way. I couldn’t even look at my wedding pictures until about 10 months after the wedding. Just try to get excited about other things, like decorating, babies, houses, school, or vacations. 🙂
Post # 9
Thanks you all. I was almost to exausted to even look back at what I wrote…It is exausting hanging onto dissapointments in life isn’t it? I would say I have let it go, but I have the occasional day that I revisit it….I haven’t been very open with my husband about the things that still hurt me from time to time because I don’t want to hurt his feelings…or complain too much, he has enough to worry about.
I also have been kinda sad I haven’t been able to put up more pictures…I don’t have any frames and can’t afford them….there’s always something to grip about if you think hard enough about it, so I try not to. Hopefully things will turn around this summer when I graduate…
Hopefully I can post some happier stuff soon.
Post # 10
It sucks that people didn’t do right by you for your wedding.
But it was still gorgous, you are married to a great man and you have beautiful photos which you want to display.
You’ll afford more frames in time. But until then, perhaps make your desktop wallpaper one of the best photos?