- 3 years ago
- Wedding: February 2014
….so that’s good.
We’re still going through with it. He wanted to ELOPE and I kind of wanted to as well but I just could not get the nagging feeling/worry that I would regret not marking the occassion with something bigger. PLUS – I needed my mother and grandma to be present and that I couldn’t live without. We decided to compromise on a 50person max (probably only 30 will make it) affair. I thought that would be just purrrrrfect for us. Small but still traditional – with a ceremony and a cake and dancing and all of that. A mini wedding, if you will. And the venue is Faaaaabulous.
What caused this sudden AWWWW HELL NO reaction?
I was looking through the pro pics of my FI’s brother’s wedding from two years ago. I went to it. It was typical wedding – very nice – 150 guests. The pictures were so beautiful and all I could think of was “That’s not us!” We aren’t that perfect couple that stare into each other’s eyes, we aren’t fashionable or primmed and prepped…ever. After looking at the photos I just felt a sudden rise of anxiety – I feel…almost….fraudulant.
At first I was so into it – white dress, cake tasting, spending a bunch of money on different food choices and open bar but as I said before – it just seems, with pulling out all the stops, less intimate. Less us.
I don’t want to back out of the wedding but I need some serious tips for making this upscale, traditional wedding more casual for us and for the guests. We don’t like to take ourselves too seriously and this wedding SCREAMS that we are taking ourselves very seriously.
Any tips? I’m having a near attack at the thought of not being true to ourselves on this very special day.