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6 weeks to the wedding, i cant find my dress

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    orangecat    8-16-08   western ma

    ...or rather...i cant find THE dress! I have looked and looked and looked. im considering taking the train to NYC. Ive been to boston, CT and MA. I cant seem to find a plain old dress that isnt heavy, not strapless, and doenst have  a really long train, is outdoorsy and looks hot.

    Any ideas at all?

    - where to go?

    -where can i try on a dress and buy it on the spot?

    I did buy a dress a few months ago when i was wearing a winter jacket, but now the dress seems to be boiling hot to wear in august. help!

     
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    LeahB    September 27, 2008   Live in Lancaster, PA. Wedding in White Plains, NY

    Not sure if you're near a David's Bridal, but I bought my dress off the rack there. It was weird for me to take it home that day, but at least I know nothing can happen to it. Anyway, probably any place like that or a place where you find a "floor model" in your size would work. Good luck!!!

     
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    nmn838      

    Have you looked at Nordstrom and Target's websites?  They may have some good options for you.  Another option would be the Filene's sale, there is one in Baltimore, MD which is a long train ride but it would be an adventure!  The sale is July 11th and they have more info on their website.  There is one in Boston Aug 22 but I am thinking that is too late.

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    hope96      

    I'm in a similar situation, but am coming close to buying a dress.  I tried on a few Nicole Miller dresses yesterday.  There are a variety of styles, and the ones I tried on are not poofy, no long train, not strapless, and would work for an outdoor wedding.  And if I decide to get the one I like, I was told they ship them quickly -- 1 to 3 weeks, or many shops have samples they will sell you on the spot. 

     
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    maureen9004    August 2008  

    Did you try nicole miller?  She has nice dresses and they are plain, simple, and many are not strapless.

     
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    orangecat    8-16-08   western ma

    ACK! Yes, ive actually tried every one of these options so far.. im sort of embarassed now. ive been to nicole miller in boston, nordstrom, neiman marcus oth online and stores, every mall from here to timbuktoo, target website like 10 minutes ago actually! i went to davids bridal today (they recognized me this time, my 3rd). they have a lot of really great dresses, but i couldnt find ones in my size that i liked and dont want to buy it and THEN try it on in another size because that seems strange to me.

    i think i am hopeless. i even bought fabric to make my own just in case i cant find one. problem is, i have never made a dress in my life!

     

    can anyone recommend a great shopping district in NYC, not bridal shopps?

     
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    kandaceandjason    10-20-07   Fort Worth, Texas

    This may sound strange, but check stores like Jessica McClintock (does that still exist?) and even Macy's, etc. If I had to do it over again, I'd look at a department store for a formal dress in white, as opposed to buying a "wedding" dress. Or go bold and find a sexy hot summer dress in another color!

     
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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    It sounds like you've been through a million options...could there really be anything different left out there? Not to throw water on your fire, but perhaps you are overanalyzing the dress. It's like the closer to the wedding the more frantic you get and more difficult to decide it becomes, right? Take a deep breath and go back to evaluate your seemingly less than perfect candidates. You might find that the one you choose (or the one you've already chosen) becomes more attractive to you by virtue of your having chosen it. If you embrace the fact that youre going to be hot at an outdoor wedding in August the one you've already got might work great for you. Or, as others have said, go in a different direction by buying a completely non-wedding-y dress, like a fun summer sundress. Good luck!

     
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    maraboo       Hoboken, NJ

    if you do end up in NYC, check out the Bridal Garden - www.bridalgarden.org - they have designer dresses in a variety of sizes and styles that are donated and that you can take home that very day (i believe) - all the proceeds that they receive go to charity - i went there and they had some cool options a few weekends ago that might work for what you're looking for, and i know 2 people who bought their dresses there and were very satisfied.

    Good Luck! 

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    MerryC    September 2008   WA

    J.Crew has some really nice simple wedding dresses.  I got the sophia long silk dress - classic looking and SO comfortable to wear! 

     
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    cupcake    September 20, 2008   Philadelphia

    Check out bridal consignment shops.... a friend of mine got one in NYC, I think it was a place called Michael's?.... and it was her dream dress, a Melissa Sweet that she never could have afforded otherwise.  You might find some hidden gems there!  And if you get something now, you still have enough time to get it altered, so it doesn't need to fit 100% perfectly.  Good luck!

     
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    maureen9004    August 2008  

    www.olivialuca.com

     

     

      You can design your own dress, pick the fabric... all online.  

     

     

     
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    elb    7/26/8   Philadelphia

    I was looking for non strapless too...and it wasn't until the last bridal shop when a sales woman said to men..."oh, all strapless dresses come with spagetti straps."

    Don't pass over the strapless dresses, especially since they are about 90% of what's out there. Look at the top of the dress and see if it would work if you got a seamstress to add spagetti straps, or even wider straps. You're going to have to get alterations anyway, since dresses don't come with bustles, so if you have a train, you already are going to have to pay $150 or more for alterations.

    Personally, I was not impressed with the quality of the dresses at David's Bridal and didn't like being practically stalked in the stores and online. Try small shops and see if they have samples that they are selling. 

    There are some other dress suggestions in this wedding saver blog that might help you:

    http://www.nbc10.com/nbc10wedding/16665971/detail.html 

     
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    dahlia      

    You could also check bluefly.com, which has a lot of designer dresses (including those in white or ivory), substantially marked down.

     
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    joeysgirl2008    05/23/2009   Louisiana

    Oh gosh..I'm sorry that you haven't found your dress yet!!

     I just got my dress, but it was TOTALLY not what I was originally wanting. I was writing off strapless, but the bridal shop lady insisted I try a corset top one on...I'm a plus size bride and this dress just knocked my socks off. I would go to a store with a clean slate and ask them to dress you in different styles. You may be hoping for a style that doesn't flatter your body type the best and this will be a refreshing change. You may look great in something you never would have thought of.

     Best of luck in your search!

     
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    misschickie    Feb or March 2009--he's planning it so I don't know!   Boston, MA

    What shape are you looking for?  Something not strapless for outdoors in the summer is going to be hard--so tank-top style, spaghetti, short/cap sleeve, halter, & off the shoulder are what's left.  If you've tried all the department stores with no luck, try edressme.com.  And try bridesmaid dresses too. 

    As with adding spaghetti straps to an otherwise strapless dress, most trains can be cut off/shortened too so don't rule out any dresses on that account.

    For more on this try kvetch.indiebride.com--they have a thread specifically for wedding dress alternatives and there are lots of different options there.  Good Luck!!!

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    LaborDayBride      

    Did you see Something Old, Something New's post from yesterday? I like the one on the left!

     

    http://kenziekate.blogspot.com/

     
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    LaborDayBride      

    oh and as for shopping "districts" in nyc... totally depends what you want to spend. If you want vintage you could try Williamsburg in brooklyn, if you want off the rack main stores, try lower fifth ave/flatiron district, if you want more unique boutique type stores try nolita (east of soho). Good Luck!

     
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    kateskouture       Berkeley, CA

    As the owner of a bridal shop - here is my advice....

    Do you have the perfect dress in mind?  Is there a dress you have been dreaming about?  What does it look like?  If you do - sketch it out. 

    What is hard is if you don't know what you want. 

    One of my brides tried on 100s of A-line cut dresses and finally the sales person convinced her to try on a dress she had in mind.  Sales people who know their job and the  dresses can tell what looks good on you.  The bride said she hated lace and sequence and only was interested in a princess style dress.  The sales person had her try a lace sheath overlay that had sequence.   The dress looked amazing on her and the bride ended up getting that dress.

    A lot of times a simple dress can look too simple for the occasion.  So my vote is that if you haven't found the perfect dress yet....  Go out of your box and try some dresses that you are convinced you would hate.  If anything it might expand what you like and don't like.  A wedding day lets you be more of who you are.  You still want to be yourself but lets face it no one dresses up this way on a regular basis.  If you never wear lace or beadwork in your everyday life, that is ok.  Most people don't.  Plus trying on different styles and cuts can help open the playing field.  Maybe bring a friend you trust and have them pick all the dresses that you try on.  . 

    And remember - don't stress.  This day is about your love and your future life.  Celebrate it!  Whether it is THE dress or just a dress that makes you feel good.

    feel free to e-mail me if I can help in any way.

    www.kateskouture.com 

    Katy 

     
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    sphbride    August 8, 2010   Seattle

    Mrs Petunia has the most beautiful dress ever in my opinion :) 

    I also like the Jim Hjelm lace dress that one of the other bees had: which was not strapless and it's super sexy and light and airy for summer! 

    I bought the Maggie Sottero JSM1122 which has cap sleeves.  My contender was JSM1095 which is 10x more beautiful in person.  Both are probably not as light as you need them to be though.

    Not sure what dresses are ready to be bought ... maybe try to find a used one.  I need that as a backup plan for my wedding too as my dress is not scheduled to arrived till 3 weeks before the date :P

     
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    sphbride    August 8, 2010   Seattle

    Also stores like Cicada in Seattle can custom make your dress!  If you know what you love, then you could try that route.

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