- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
My husband and I were engaged one month before finding out we were expecting my son. With lots of pressure from his family to wed before the baby was born, we married when I was 6 months pregnant. We lived in his hometown small farming town and also had lots and lots of pressure from community members to not where white. I wore blue.
We were extremely tight on money. the whole thing ended up costing 1500, we chose modest rings (antique pave style for me, which I ended up being allergic to the white gold shortly after buying our rings). We were married in a vegas style wedding chapel, with only his mother and my parents in attendance. (we live 6 hours from my family). The reception was supposed to be held in the garden of a 100 year old Victorian home, but after our ceremony, the town was hit by a 75mph wind storm. it destroyed everything. the intimate garden reception was ruined. we moved it inside but the house really couldnt accomodate the 30 guests.
Fast forward to today…. we’ve survived moving to a big city to be closer to his family, career changes, losing a very close family member of mine, an fbi case involving my daughter and her biological daughter ( he raped her, and after a year long trial is now sentenced to life in prison), and a seperation. I feel like we never had a wedding. of course we were wed, and I can never repeat that act. But we are now wanting to renew our vows. Its extremely important to me after all we’ve been through. And my family, or other people who will be invited will not be irked by only 6 years of marriage and having a renewal. My whole fmaily missed our ceremony and reception. I feel I need to share our story to explain why its important that we have a renewal.
My question is, how do you keep it from being a “Second wedding”. My stepmother has no daughters of her own and has offered me her handmade wedding dress. Her mother made it, and I unknowingly chose her mothers birthday for the renewal (she has passed away). The dress is very simple but vintage and gorgeous. I will be wearing it. My kids will “walk me down the aisle”. I just see this whole thing getting blown out of porportion with family wanting to give us another wedding. I want simple… and intimate. Definatly not a second wedding. no pomp and circumstance. Im definatly not the flashy type. So Bees… for those of you who’ve had vow renewals after only a few years of marriage… how did you keep things simple and not a second wedding.