To my knowledge, at some point before the ceremony you should switch your e-ring to your right hand. Your band goes on your left hand during the ceremony, and then sometime after that (could be later that day, could be the next day, whatever you like depending on preference re: wedding day photos, etc.) you switch your e-ring back on to your left hand. You're right about the band going first; my mother tells me it's so that the wedding band is always closest to your heart (aww).
Good question, I guess I would not wear my E-ring the day of the wedding until after the ceremony. (unless of course you want the pictures of it on)
I would not think that you would walk down the aisle with the E-ring on.
I am planning on getting mine soddered and putting both on at the same time. If I were you I would ask the church coordinator what typically happenes. Then again you have not had the best luck with the church.
You could jma19's suggestion above and have a bridesmaid, mother, etc wear it during the ceremony. Or, even simpler: just don't wear it! You could just go without for the day or even just for the ceremony. The wedding band itself is definitely more important that day.
Personally I want photos with both my wedding band and my e-ring, and I'm wearing a ring from my grandma on my right hand, so I'll have my sister/MOH wear my e-ring during the ceremony and then get it from her right after. People want to see the bling!
you could still wear it on your left hand as usual down the aisle. at the time when your fi puts the wedding band on your finger, you could take off your ering and hand it over to you moh. after he puts the band on your finger, take the ering back from the moh.
If you're having the bands soldered together, just have that done before the ceremony. If not, and if you can't wear your e-ring on your right hand, then you can either take your ring off before the ceremony, or have him put the wedding ring on top of the e-ring and switch them later. I'm going to do that (switch them later) if it's hot that day - otherwise I can wear my e-ring on my right hand. (If my fingers are a little swollen, I have to use soap to get it off!)
I think most peopel put the e-ring on their right hand and then switch it over anytime after you get the wedding ring. Old news, right. BUT, I should point out, that I have seen a groom get confused by this at the altar because he was 'aiming' for the hand that the engagement ring was on. Just make sure he knows you have them switched and it will be all good.
Okay so I hadn't even *thought* about this until a few hours before the ceremony and I took my sisters advice- Just slip your e-ring off right before fiance puts on wedding band and slip e-ring on right after. It went SUPER smooth. I think this only works if you don't typically have to struggle to get your e-ring off.
i've been thinking about this too, since my ering doesnt fit my right hand.....none of the fingers work. so i might take beesknees advice. as long as i'm not retaining water that should go smootly....otherwise, i really dont know what i will do....perhaps wear my ering on my the pink of my right hand? that finger isn't big enough....would it look wierd to wear the ering only halfway down the right hand ring finger?
Wedding band goes closest to the heart, that's tradition and according to my mother, THE RULE and the one you should exchange your vows with. My FI purchased 2 wedding bands for me (spoiled) one for each side of E ring, it's awesome, anyway, I will have E ring soddered to one wedding band before wedding day. We will be married with the single band and that one will always be worn closest to my heart, then will slip Ering with soddered band from MOH just after exchange. Now I have E-ring with 2 bands for fancy wear and if I just want to wear the one band for more casual days, I can. But it will always be the one I was married with, closest to my heart.
I have to admit, I wore my e-ring on my left hand for the whole ceremony. This isn't one of the traditions that had any meaning for me, so I went with the simpliest option. I wore my e-ring as normal, he placed the wedding ring on with the e-ring there, then after we recessed, I flip-flopped them so that the wedding band would be closest. I admit, I was afraid that my DH would get confused if he saw my e-ring on the other hand and I love it so much that I wouldn't have wanted to do without it during such a special occasion. It just seemed the easiest and my DH and i had made a pact that if a tradition didn't hold any meaning for him, myself, or someone close to us we wouldn't worry about it.
Actually the "tradition" of whether the wedding ring goes on under or over the e-ring, or even goes on the same hand, or which hand that is, is totally cultural and differs from country to country. In some countries it differs according to your religeon. So your mom is telling you what she knows, but it's not an absolute rule. I have several British friends who wear their wedding ring on their left hand and their e-ring on their right hand, and several German friends who do just the opposite. My grandmother (who was Hispanic) wore her wedding ring on top of her e-rings, which she said was meant to preserve the romance of the engagement through the marriage. (I never heard whether than worked or not, but apparently it was the tradition in her family.)
So really, you can do whatever you want. I'm not having my rings soldered together (and yes, everybody, that is the correct spelling) and intend to wear them either together on the left hand, together with the e-ring on the right hand and the wedding ring on the left hand, or wedding ring only, depending on what I'm doing that day.
I wore my e-ring on my left hand during the ceremony. To heck with tradition, I wanted my e-ring to stay right where it had always been! :) Someone previously mentioned that they didn't want their FI confused by the ring on the right hand and that was my thought too. I simply flipped the rings the right way after the recessional and went on my merry way.
In Jewish weddings, with a traditional ceremony, the groom puts the ring on the bride's index finger! It usually doesn't budge beyond the first knuckle, of course,(there are a million family pictures with brides pointing out fingers from under the veil...)and the bride is left with it till the groom finishes his words, then switches it to the correct finger.
It's all symbolic, anyway, there's no rule you should adhere to, just tradition and the way you feel.
My sister in law was so frazzled the morning of the wedding that she accidentally put her engagement ring on her right hand (which she had never done before), then flipped out that she had lost it, then started to switch it to her left hand when I explained that I thought she'd done it on purpose. Haha. But yeah, both she and I just wore it on our right hands and swapped it back immediately after the ceremony. One of my friends couldn't fit hers on her right hand so I just wore it (as a bridesmaid) until the ceremony was over when she reclaimed it. I think anything goes, but I do like the idea of the wedding ring being closer to the heart - not to mention I take my engagement ring on and off when I shower and sleep, but I always want my wedding band to stay on.
Okay I we bought my wedding band the other day, and as we looked at it and admired I realized I have NO idea how this works....
DO I wear my E-ring, and he puts on my band at the wedding....and if so what happens because the band is supposed to be on before the e-ring.
DO I not wear anything and he gives me both at the wedding (rings are not being soddered, btw)
How the heck does it work....???? Thanks gals!
posted by Sweeney2Be 2 months agoMost people either wear their E-ring on their right hand or have a bridesmaid wear it until after the ceremony.
posted by jma19 2 months agoTo my knowledge, at some point before the ceremony you should switch your e-ring to your right hand. Your band goes on your left hand during the ceremony, and then sometime after that (could be later that day, could be the next day, whatever you like depending on preference re: wedding day photos, etc.) you switch your e-ring back on to your left hand. You're right about the band going first; my mother tells me it's so that the wedding band is always closest to your heart (aww).
posted by haliwood 2 months agoGood question, I guess I would not wear my E-ring the day of the wedding until after the ceremony. (unless of course you want the pictures of it on)
I would not think that you would walk down the aisle with the E-ring on.
I am planning on getting mine soddered and putting both on at the same time. If I were you I would ask the church coordinator what typically happenes. Then again you have not had the best luck with the church.
posted by TCBride 2 months agomy e-ring won't fit my right hand! I tired, it got stuck....lol.
posted by Sweeney2Be 2 months agoHaha oh no!
You could jma19's suggestion above and have a bridesmaid, mother, etc wear it during the ceremony. Or, even simpler: just don't wear it! You could just go without for the day or even just for the ceremony. The wedding band itself is definitely more important that day.
posted by haliwood 2 months agoPersonally I want photos with both my wedding band and my e-ring, and I'm wearing a ring from my grandma on my right hand, so I'll have my sister/MOH wear my e-ring during the ceremony and then get it from her right after. People want to see the bling!
posted by jma19 2 months agoyou could still wear it on your left hand as usual down the aisle. at the time when your fi puts the wedding band on your finger, you could take off your ering and hand it over to you moh. after he puts the band on your finger, take the ering back from the moh.
posted by Joanne 2 months agoIf you're having the bands soldered together, just have that done before the ceremony. If not, and if you can't wear your e-ring on your right hand, then you can either take your ring off before the ceremony, or have him put the wedding ring on top of the e-ring and switch them later. I'm going to do that (switch them later) if it's hot that day - otherwise I can wear my e-ring on my right hand. (If my fingers are a little swollen, I have to use soap to get it off!)
posted by suzanno 2 months agoI think most peopel put the e-ring on their right hand and then switch it over anytime after you get the wedding ring. Old news, right. BUT, I should point out, that I have seen a groom get confused by this at the altar because he was 'aiming' for the hand that the engagement ring was on. Just make sure he knows you have them switched and it will be all good.
--Mrs Corn
posted by corn 2 months agoHi Hi!
Okay so I hadn't even *thought* about this until a few hours before the ceremony and I took my sisters advice- Just slip your e-ring off right before fiance puts on wedding band and slip e-ring on right after. It went SUPER smooth. I think this only works if you don't typically have to struggle to get your e-ring off.
posted by beesknees 2 months agoi've been thinking about this too, since my ering doesnt fit my right hand.....none of the fingers work. so i might take beesknees advice. as long as i'm not retaining water that should go smootly....otherwise, i really dont know what i will do....perhaps wear my ering on my the pink of my right hand? that finger isn't big enough....would it look wierd to wear the ering only halfway down the right hand ring finger?
sigh....so many details to think about, huh?
posted by GetMarried4Less 2 months agoWedding band goes closest to the heart, that's tradition and according to my mother, THE RULE and the one you should exchange your vows with. My FI purchased 2 wedding bands for me (spoiled) one for each side of E ring, it's awesome, anyway, I will have E ring soddered to one wedding band before wedding day. We will be married with the single band and that one will always be worn closest to my heart, then will slip Ering with soddered band from MOH just after exchange. Now I have E-ring with 2 bands for fancy wear and if I just want to wear the one band for more casual days, I can. But it will always be the one I was married with, closest to my heart.
posted by HiLife 2 months agoI have to admit, I wore my e-ring on my left hand for the whole ceremony. This isn't one of the traditions that had any meaning for me, so I went with the simpliest option. I wore my e-ring as normal, he placed the wedding ring on with the e-ring there, then after we recessed, I flip-flopped them so that the wedding band would be closest. I admit, I was afraid that my DH would get confused if he saw my e-ring on the other hand and I love it so much that I wouldn't have wanted to do without it during such a special occasion. It just seemed the easiest and my DH and i had made a pact that if a tradition didn't hold any meaning for him, myself, or someone close to us we wouldn't worry about it.
Good luck everyone!
posted by bonniebelle101 2 months agoActually the "tradition" of whether the wedding ring goes on under or over the e-ring, or even goes on the same hand, or which hand that is, is totally cultural and differs from country to country. In some countries it differs according to your religeon. So your mom is telling you what she knows, but it's not an absolute rule. I have several British friends who wear their wedding ring on their left hand and their e-ring on their right hand, and several German friends who do just the opposite. My grandmother (who was Hispanic) wore her wedding ring on top of her e-rings, which she said was meant to preserve the romance of the engagement through the marriage. (I never heard whether than worked or not, but apparently it was the tradition in her family.)
So really, you can do whatever you want. I'm not having my rings soldered together (and yes, everybody, that is the correct spelling) and intend to wear them either together on the left hand, together with the e-ring on the right hand and the wedding ring on the left hand, or wedding ring only, depending on what I'm doing that day.
posted by suzanno 2 months agoI wore my e-ring on my left hand during the ceremony. To heck with tradition, I wanted my e-ring to stay right where it had always been! :) Someone previously mentioned that they didn't want their FI confused by the ring on the right hand and that was my thought too. I simply flipped the rings the right way after the recessional and went on my merry way.
posted by thenewmrsw 2 months agoMy sister in law was so frazzled the morning of the wedding that she accidentally put her engagement ring on her right hand (which she had never done before), then flipped out that she had lost it, then started to switch it to her left hand when I explained that I thought she'd done it on purpose. Haha. But yeah, both she and I just wore it on our right hands and swapped it back immediately after the ceremony. One of my friends couldn't fit hers on her right hand so I just wore it (as a bridesmaid) until the ceremony was over when she reclaimed it. I think anything goes, but I do like the idea of the wedding ring being closer to the heart - not to mention I take my engagement ring on and off when I shower and sleep, but I always want my wedding band to stay on.
posted by bluebell 2 months ago