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I think a late dinner would still be ok. I would still eat and enjoy myself at a 9pm dinner.
@Aubergold: I think if you are requiring people to attend a rehearsal, then yes, you need to provide them with some sort of meal. You could just do something really casual like head to a pizza place, or go to a bar and cover heavy apps for everyone to munch on.
7:30 for many people is dinnertime and it is courteous to feed them. Can you at least spring for pizza afterward? It doesn't have to be fancy and most are very casual.
@Moose1209: I dont mind (and want to) provide people with dinner, but is 9pm too late? I really like the bar idea!
@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Thanks mama! I am so worried people will be like WTF!
What about doing a dinner and then going to the rehearsal? That way people won't have to be out so late the night before the wedding
9pm is not too late. Yeah, not everyone eats that late on a daily basis but they can make an exception for this event.
Rehearsal dinner? When are you going to do your traditional? You want people to come after your mother right? Okay oh. American child 
@futuremrsmp: no dice, FI is graduating from med school that friday (I know I know) and the graduation wont be done until 5pm. factor in time for congratulations, pictures and travel and it"ll already be like 6:30/7. 
@Ember78: Ok. We were thinking of doing a Thursday rehearsal but I just can't ask people to take another day off work an hour rehearsal, ya know?
I know I have no choice, but I just wanted to hear your reassurances!
@bRooklynRocks: lol. We are not doing a traditional the night before (Im not Nigerian sucka!!!!) lol. We are going to have it a few weeks before the wedding so booya, Nigerian child!
Grrr, in that case, and knowing how our folks can be, honestly, I don't believe it will start at 7:30pm. Mine did, but only because it was JUST the bridal party. And it was only 6 of them. Plus us, the DOC and the officiant, we were able to knock it out in no time. However, with a sibling, it took FOREVER. Folks were late etc etc. I'd do dinner before then rehearse afterwards.
Is there someone who could act as hostess in your absence so you could serve a few apps at the rehearsal site, so the bridal party doesn't starve while they wait for dinner?
After you join them and have the rehearsal, you could then carry on to wherever you want to be and have the rest of your rehearsal dinner.
I really think it would be impolite to make people wait until 9 pm to eat anything.
@bRooklynRocks: sigh I know. I"m dreaming thinking it will start on time with the amount of pictures we will have to take with "Auntie Nana Akua and Uncle Tunde who gave you $5.00 when you were 12" and so on.
@julies1949: Do you mean have snacks at the rehearsal itself? The bridal party would have to be with me and FI as we rehease but people dont have to show up before hand if they dont want to.
@Aubergold: Where is your ceremony taking place? Is there somewhere really close that could make your dinner while you rehearse so that people can just sit down and eat instead of mingling while the food is prepared?
ETA: What time does everyone in your wedding party get off of work? Would 6pm on a Thursday be late enough for everyone to make it without having to take off of work?
@MsBrooklynA: that is a good idea (finding some place to cook beforehand). Unfortunately, our whole bridal party is at least 4 hours out of town or is across the country. Bleh! lol.
I don't think a 9pm dinner time is an issue for most if they are fully aware of it before hand. I know I would make sure I had a snack prior to the rehearsal. If you can have something available to munch on there, that would nice too.
I didn't do a regular dinner - we rented out a private loft space in a bar and had heavy apps and drinks, and it was awesome, really more of a cocktail party where everyone could mingle a bit more if they wanted to. There was plenty of food!
@Aubergold: Boo on being far away! Check around and see if maybe you can either preorder some sort of buffet or just send out a menu for people to choose from and then place the order a few days in advance.
I dont think a 9 pm dinner would be that bad. People are bound to know it will be later after they find out when the actual rehursal is going to be. I think it will be good that it is later, because then you can get in eat and out semi quickly. Go for it.
Is it possible to do an earlier dinner and then the rehearsal?
We're facing the same problem - our rehearsal starts at 6:00, but I was told by a friend who has been to rehearsals by our pastor that he's "very thorough and it could go for hours"... like, she gave us 4 hours as a ball park.
I'm thinking if we start dinner at 4:00, then it's a bit earlier, but we can do snacks/dessert afterwards?
@Aubergold: If your rehearsal is at the venue itself, and there is any capacity for catering, I would have a few apps and a punch or something for everyone who was required to be at the rehearsal, so they could socialize and have a snack until you and your FI show up. That way they are not having to go out and feed themselves so they can wait until 9 pm.
Would anyone be able to host in your absence?
Hmm what if you just did heavy appetizers? Even if it was cold appetizers, perhaps some dessert, and then you could take people out to the bar if they were interested.
The last wedding that I was a bridesmaid in had a similar situation and it really wasn't a problem. The rehearsal started at 7, was over around 8 or 830 and then they had a late finger food spread (sandwiches, sushi etc) for everyone that was catered into the bride's home. We all had a snack before hand, and it turned out to be a really great party afterwards! And I didn't hear a single person complain about how late it was. Remember, the people coming to your rehearsal dinner are usually going to be your wedding party and immediate family. These are people who should be understanding and go with the flow if you have to schedule it that way due to other commitments!
How about provide sandwich platters during the rehearsal and as another bee suggested a dessert after?
I am an early to bed kind of girl and starting dinner at 9 is really late if you want me to be up the next day. If you consider dinner, driving etc I wouldnt be home till about 12. Late for me.
Could you push your rehearsal back a little bit, and eat beforehand? That's what I had to do. We ate at 6pm and had our rehearsal at 8:15. There was a 30 minute drive in between locations. I would hate to wait so late to eat while going through a rehearsal. To me, they are boring and stressful, so being hungry wouldn't help in that situation. Just a thought.
If you absolutely can't eat before, I would just do dinner at 9 then. Plenty of people eat that late, and it's better than nothing. I would definitely want some kind of plan for dinner that night. Even if it was just, "Hey we're going to Chili's after this if you want to come".
Why not throw a cocktail style rehearsal. Tell everyone to eat light and then serve Tapas and desserts with fantastic cocktails. 9pm is not too late in my opinion, but in my circle we would eat at 8:30 on a normal weekend night anyway.
maybe eat before the rehersal? thats what we are doing since our rehersal is at 6 pm
I had the same sort of situation where my rehearsal was a little later in the evening. What we did was a cocktail reception afterwards where we served cocktails and appetizers. We had Nachos, Wings, veggies and dip, Zuchini sticks and a bunch of other finger type foods (They were all prepared very fancy) and martinis etc. It went over really well with our group it was a great social time.
can you do your rehersal on a different day? kind of unusual but it sound like that day is already kind of busy....
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Our rehearsal is at 7;30pm. This is the suckiest thing ever I know and I would move it up if I could, but I can't.
Should we even bother having a rehearsal dinner? it wouldn't start until 9pm (the rehearsal lasts just about an hour). That is ridiculous right? Is there anything we can do lieu of dinner or should we just call it a night? There is really no option to have dinner beforehand either. Sigh.