Post # 1
This is hilarious, the whole planning process I never posted once here, but now I’m 8 days away from our wedding and I am nervous as hell.
When I think of our honeymoon (which we’re starting immediately after the reception), and of how wonderful it will be after all the hubbub is over, I get THE best feeling, so I don’t think it’s the “being married” thing that’s bugging me.
I am nervous by nature…but I’m so afraid I will be unable to relax and enjoy myself on the wedding day. I KNOW in my brain that everything is sorted, everything is going to be fine, I’ve been working like a dog these past 9 months to cross everything off The List. I’m afraid my out of town family won’t be comfortable or have a good time, or they will think I’m too this or too that, like it looks like I’m too attached to my fiance’s family (who all live here, so I see them more often). I’m hyper-aware of myself and just flip out being the center of attention (I mean how do you graciously be the center of attention? I feel so awkward! Like at the shower…it was fun but I felt like I was TOO “It’s all about us”) because I try to always put myself last.
I’m so uncomfortable and it’s been such a roller coaster!
Anyone else feeling like this? Anyone who is past their wedding–could you enjoy your wedding day?
Post # 3
I felt the same way!!!
Then, the day of, i was so busy i had no time to be nervous!!! i wasn’t nervous at all the day off. THe day just flew by and honestly, i don’t even know where the day went and there’s alot i don’t remember because i was busy talking to people etc.
If i have any advice…. it’s to give yourself time on your wedding day to just enjoy it yourself. I still had alot of fun but i did feel rushed a bit doing stuff between arriving at the venue and getting pictures taken, the photos after the ceremony, getting back for the entrance and dinner, then making sure i greeted and thanked all 95 people… whew! i wish i had a tad more time to just relax and take it all in….
Post # 4
@RockStar33: Thanks for the reply! This is good to hear. Sadly we’re pretty tight on time, I’m already worried about pictures taking too long but the photog is a good friend and I’ll be fine if we don’t have hundreds of pics. And we’re leaving the reception at like 9 to make it to our beach hotel (!!) by 11, so I know the reception will fly by too. I also Stage Manage for a theatre company, so I think I’m going about this with that attitude of needing to see ‘rehearsals’ one million times before being truly ready ‘to open’. I also feel guilty for any time I put aside for just me and my guy (even just a trip to the pumpkin patch to pick up decorations the day before), because of family coming from far away, even though I know that’s important.
It’s all self-imposed and I don’t know why I do it! Ack.
tl/dr: Pretty sure I will feel rushed…but glad to hear that even though you felt that way, you still had a good time! =)
Post # 5
I am a little nervous about family, too, because they are almost all out of town, so I feel in some way like I need to “host” them along with everything else the day before and day of the wedding. But I am trying to remember that it’s our wedding and people understand if we can just spend a little time with everyone. We’re busy getting married! If they want quality one-on-one time, they are welcome to come back another time.
Remember that you won’t be alone that day to handle whatever comes your way – you will be surrounded by those you love and who love you, including the love of your life! It’s even better than the shower experience because your FI-now-husband will be standing by your side. So if you are feeling nervous, just give his hand a squeeze. That’s my plan, anyway! It’s actually making me feel less anxious to write this to you, haha!
Post # 6
@Fairy Penguin: I TOTALLY get how giving advice can make you feel less anxious! Earlier in the planning process I penned a looong email about how I’ve gone about planning to my friend who’s getting married 2 months after us, and that made me feel way more organized and in control of everything.
Thanks for the supportive words! I have all next week (week before the wedding) off work, and I’m SO glad I had the foresight to take that time. I have a feeling that when I can focus 100% on the wedding, I’ll see that everything is much easier than I thought and realize how all our families are coming together to support and shower us with love…all that good stuff! A wedding is way easier and more exciting than a play, so I need to drop my Stage Manager hat STAT! =)
Mr. Goodall’s hand might be squeezed pretty hard in a week, but I think he can handle it. =)