- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Ok so this is pretty much a vent feast but I got to let it out somewhere!
So I’m having a hard time dealing with the wedding party (bridesmaids and groomsmen) When I got engaged I knew right away the 4 ladies I wanted to be my bridesmaids. I went back and forth trying to decide to who to ask to be maid of honor and in the end I decided I just wouln’t have one because I didn’t want to choose. We are having a small backyard wedding at my parents house so instead of choosing a dress for everyone to buy I just said they should be black because honestly I thought most of them probably already own a black dress or could get one that they would wear again for other things. Well only one out of the 4 had one. My Bridesmaid or Best Man who lives in another state bought one and the one who lives an hour away bought one but I’m still waiting on the other girl to buy one. Holy Cow it is driving me crazy! she keeps saying she is broke or asking if she can wear another color. I feel like I have been more than fair and considerate and asking her to wear a specific color is not unsual. It just seriously annoys me that she says she can’t afford to buy one right now but then will post of facebook that she is at some club or out eating or at the movies with friends. Ok I get her life doesn’t revolve around my wedding but I feel like if she agreed to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man then she needs to hold up her end of the bargain. I am asking NOTHING of my BMs but to get the black dress and show up on the day of. I am not making them get there hair done, buy specific shoes or jewlery or anything. I do realize that she still has a little over three months to buy it but I keep having this vision of her showing up in another colored dress. That would make me look horrible to the other BMs because they all went out and bought one and if I still let her walk and be in pics then it’s unfair. I’m trying to picture it in my head because honestly I don’t know how I will react.
The one that lives out of state has yet to buy her plane ticket! I’m a little worried because she can be flakey at times. She can’t make it to the bridal shower because understandably she can’t afford to fly out here twice. She offered to throw my bachlorette party 2 days before the wedding when she is here since she can’t be here or help with the shower. After she told me that I opened my big mouth and told my Bridesmaid or Best Man Mel about the plans for the bachlorette party, and now everyone is planning on coming. I know Mel would step in and do it if she for some reason doesn’t end up coming but I feel so stressed about it.
My Bridesmaid or Best Man who lives an hour away told me to tell my Bridesmaid or Best Man Mel that she would like to bring the cupcakes to the bridal shower. Mel and my Mom are planning it (so nice of them 🙂 but she wanted to do the cupcakes. So I let my mom and Mel know that so they didn’t make other arrangments for a cake or anything. Well she texts me two days ago and informs me she might not be able to come to the shower or wedding because she won’t get her car in time and might not get a ride. I of course understand her dilemma but it just kinda sent me over the edge ( I was PMSing as well) My poor Fiance had to listen to me vent about it lol! well she texted me later that night and said her mom was willing to bring her but she has to leave right after the ceremony. I was just relieved to hear she could make it! I was dying thinking of the possibility two of my best friends might not be there!
Anyways my friend Mel is doing so much but only has the Bridesmaid or Best Man title. Do you think I should jsut ask her to be my MOH?
The groomsmen are asked to wear Ivory shirt, black pants, and black ties. All 3 of them asked me what Ivory was..SIGH! I have a feeling it’s going to be a fight to get them to do it and honestly I just don’t have the energy to be trying to get people to cooperate! WHAT SHOULD I DO?