They hate me simply b cox FI & I are totally in love with each other. I am unsure how I can handle this anymore. They dont like FI and me meeting also. FI is travelling on business all the time, we NEVER meet and when we get a chance to, they detest the fact we want to meet.
It is not my fault that they have not found true love in their lives, why shuold I have to bear the cross for that.
FI had decided that we ll live with them. I have no such desires and dont want to hurt FI's feeling also.
I'm with Kate on this one. It almost sounds like you aren't having in-law problems, your husband is still to atttached to his parents and that is where the problem lies.
Hope you can work this out with your FI. Especially if you plan on living with the in-laws (doesn't sound like a good idea if you ask me)
I'm not judging by any means by it sounds to me they might be concerened with your age - how old are you? I think we all might be better suited to help you , if we knew that key fact.
Um.. what do you mean FI's decided you'll live with them? This is not his decision alone -- you need to make that one together, and you certainly should NOT be living with your inlaws if they dislike you or if you have ANY MEANS AT ALL to live somewhere else.
I would rethink living with them because they don't sound like the type of people you would want to live with. Just talk with FI and tell him that you would rather get your own small place to be together. Good luck
Ok, fist...CALM down...Read back what you wrote and you'll see that it doesn't make sense.
Why do you wanna be where you're not wanted? Livin' with the in-laws is a horrible idea. You'll cry EVERYDAY! Don't do it.
Talk things over with your FI because it sucks that it'll hurt his feelings but in the long run it'll be better for both of you. You won't be falling apart due to fighting and emotional abuse from your In-laws and he won't stress trying to make everybody happy.
Sometimes love is NOT all you need...you need stability, maturity and responsibility. THINK IT OVER.
I'm not sure you're going to find many of us here that really understand the entire "I don't have a choice" thing because in this country we do and many of us are extremely independent. I love my FMIL to death but I don't think I could live with her, and I'm 30 years old.
This may sound harsh, but at some point your FI is going to have to make a choice: you or his parents. If I were in that situation, I would certainly make him make the choice before we got married rather than after it.
They hate me simply b cox FI & I are totally in love with each other. I am unsure how I can handle this anymore. They dont like FI and me meeting also. FI is travelling on business all the time, we NEVER meet and when we get a chance to, they detest the fact we want to meet.
It is not my fault that they have not found true love in their lives, why shuold I have to bear the cross for that.
FI had decided that we ll live with them. I have no such desires and dont want to hurt FI's feeling also.
Please let me know how to solve this.
posted by sin 1 month agoThey don't like y'all seeing each other? Y'all are going to live with them?
How old are y'all?
posted by KateMW 1 month agoI'm with Kate on this one. It almost sounds like you aren't having in-law problems, your husband is still to atttached to his parents and that is where the problem lies.
Hope you can work this out with your FI. Especially if you plan on living with the in-laws (doesn't sound like a good idea if you ask me)
posted by huskerlx 1 month agoI'm not judging by any means by it sounds to me they might be concerened with your age - how old are you? I think we all might be better suited to help you , if we knew that key fact.
posted by Sweeney2Be 1 month agoUm.. what do you mean FI's decided you'll live with them? This is not his decision alone -- you need to make that one together, and you certainly should NOT be living with your inlaws if they dislike you or if you have ANY MEANS AT ALL to live somewhere else.
posted by caliocteach 1 month agoI would rethink living with them because they don't sound like the type of people you would want to live with. Just talk with FI and tell him that you would rather get your own small place to be together. Good luck
posted by QueenoftheClick 1 month agoOk, fist...CALM down...Read back what you wrote and you'll see that it doesn't make sense.
Why do you wanna be where you're not wanted? Livin' with the in-laws is a horrible idea. You'll cry EVERYDAY! Don't do it.
Talk things over with your FI because it sucks that it'll hurt his feelings but in the long run it'll be better for both of you. You won't be falling apart due to fighting and emotional abuse from your In-laws and he won't stress trying to make everybody happy.
Sometimes love is NOT all you need...you need stability, maturity and responsibility. THINK IT OVER.
posted by V 1 month agothanks girls!
i am 20. We are from pakisthan and from a conservative society. so the son is supposed to live with the parents. hence i dont have a choice.
i am worried he would get upset if i suggested that we live by ourselves. but i think i am going to do this and tell him i cant live with them.
the point is they dont dislike me but dislike me spending time with their son. i guess MIL is just havin a tough time letting go of her son.
sigh!
posted by sin 1 month agoI'm not sure you're going to find many of us here that really understand the entire "I don't have a choice" thing because in this country we do and many of us are extremely independent. I love my FMIL to death but I don't think I could live with her, and I'm 30 years old.
This may sound harsh, but at some point your FI is going to have to make a choice: you or his parents. If I were in that situation, I would certainly make him make the choice before we got married rather than after it.
posted by jma19 1 month agosin,
Are you still in Pakistan or do you all now live in the United States? How westernized is your FI?
posted by elb 1 month ago