Okay remember the ex BM I told you about - "Cream Sauce", the one who wanted a special order on her meal at the wedding just because.
Yeah well I fuind out she was "just kidding" with me. I'm fratically trying to find out if the venue will do it and IF I should allow it and she's "kidding" Ugh...
So NOW....she's RSVP'd with her boyfriend and I asked her to make sure she's 100% positive he won't be at a DJ show that night working. She says, he would still come just stay until he las to leave? Which is an undertermined time, and could be beofre the meal....and I would still be stuck paying for his food.
I told her tough, either he stays for the food no matter what or he's not eating. I'm sick of her crap and I can't uninvite her so maybe she'll decline now or soemthing.
Any other options from you girls on how to handle Guest-zilla?
She's making your life a living hell! Are you sure you cannot uninvite her? I feel like that is the only solution! You shouldn't even have to see her on your big day!
I think Mr Bee is right. Her "jokes" are her way of stressing you out with a smile on her face. You will take away her control over you if you just let her special requests or, really, any attempt to engage you, roll off your back. You have to many legitimate things to worry about as you prepare for your wedding. Try not to give her another thought.
Do you even want to maintain a friendship with this person anymore? I only ask because if you don't, I would honestly uninvite her at this point. But to do that you would have to be willing to break all ties with her. If that's not something you want to do or can do because of the situation, then ditto mrbee and gingerbread. You just need to take the high road and stop worrying about her.
the food thing I could understand if she was lactose intolerant. but this is just strange. Just don't count him for food. and tell her. if he is there, he can eat appetizers, or you can just tell the kitchen that you got an unexpected guest. they make more food than they need anyway. and until then, ignore her from now on! shes obnoxious.
Ugh. She's a piece of work, isn't she? If her boyfriend can only attend part of the evening, and will have to leave, he should RSVP as "wedding only." We have several friends who are actually leaving for Europe on a late flight the night of our wedding who did that - they will attend the wedding and perhaps have a cocktail afterwards, but have to leave for the airport around the time that dinner is served. It's really not possible that he doesn't know what time he has to leave - if he's working that night they expect him there at a specific time. If he's going to have to leave before the dinner hour is over, then he shouldn't get dinner (what, are they next going to ask you to pack his "to go"?)
You are allowing this girl to cause you way too much stress. You can't change her so either uninvite her or just let it alllll go. Whatever she does, don't worry about it. Concentrate on all the great people who are coming and the fact that you are getting married!!
I'm not stressed as much as I am annoyed. Which is why I come ya'll to help me find non violent ways of dealing. I can't uninvite. I just can't i know it sound sterrible and most of you would have strung her up by now and beat her silly with bats....but I can't.
Ignoring works for me and I think I will take that road and I have taken oher advice that I have a "Cream Suace Handeler" (LOL) to keep her away from me on the wedding day.
I'm assuming she'll get annoyed and go home sooner then everyone else anyway.
again.... feed her cake. but this time, give her 2 pieces. One for her 'DJ' mantoy (it shocks me she is even able to maintain a relationship!)
this biotch is bating you bigtime. she's a glory hog... I'd can her ass and say, "You know what, this is just too much drama and I think you'd be better served spending the evening with your boyfriend at his DJ gig at another wedding. And by the way unlike you, I'm not kidding."
Okay remember the ex BM I told you about - "Cream Sauce", the one who wanted a special order on her meal at the wedding just because.
Yeah well I fuind out she was "just kidding" with me. I'm fratically trying to find out if the venue will do it and IF I should allow it and she's "kidding" Ugh...
So NOW....she's RSVP'd with her boyfriend and I asked her to make sure she's 100% positive he won't be at a DJ show that night working. She says, he would still come just stay until he las to leave? Which is an undertermined time, and could be beofre the meal....and I would still be stuck paying for his food.
I told her tough, either he stays for the food no matter what or he's not eating. I'm sick of her crap and I can't uninvite her so maybe she'll decline now or soemthing.
Any other options from you girls on how to handle Guest-zilla?
posted by Sweeney2Be 1 month agoShe's making your life a living hell! Are you sure you cannot uninvite her? I feel like that is the only solution! You shouldn't even have to see her on your big day!
posted by LaborDayBride 1 month agoI'll send her a bill if she doens't eat his food.....;-)
posted by Sweeney2Be 1 month agoYes!! Make her eat his food too! THAT will help her "diet"
posted by jma19 1 month agoJust take the high road. She's trying to create drama - either through her food or through her boyfriend - to get back at you.
posted by mrbee 1 month agoTake a deep breath. Ignore her. Pay for the food either way. Consider the $$ is the cost of your sanity!
posted by guinness257 1 month agoI think Mr Bee is right. Her "jokes" are her way of stressing you out with a smile on her face. You will take away her control over you if you just let her special requests or, really, any attempt to engage you, roll off your back. You have to many legitimate things to worry about as you prepare for your wedding. Try not to give her another thought.
posted by gingerbread 1 month agoDo you even want to maintain a friendship with this person anymore? I only ask because if you don't, I would honestly uninvite her at this point. But to do that you would have to be willing to break all ties with her. If that's not something you want to do or can do because of the situation, then ditto mrbee and gingerbread. You just need to take the high road and stop worrying about her.
posted by prettykatie 1 month agothe food thing I could understand if she was lactose intolerant. but this is just strange. Just don't count him for food. and tell her. if he is there, he can eat appetizers, or you can just tell the kitchen that you got an unexpected guest. they make more food than they need anyway. and until then, ignore her from now on! shes obnoxious.
posted by dreambml 1 month agoI shold take applications of fellow Hive members who want to attend my wedding and be the "Cream Sauce" aversion squad....lol
posted by Sweeney2Be 1 month agoUgh. She's a piece of work, isn't she? If her boyfriend can only attend part of the evening, and will have to leave, he should RSVP as "wedding only." We have several friends who are actually leaving for Europe on a late flight the night of our wedding who did that - they will attend the wedding and perhaps have a cocktail afterwards, but have to leave for the airport around the time that dinner is served. It's really not possible that he doesn't know what time he has to leave - if he's working that night they expect him there at a specific time. If he's going to have to leave before the dinner hour is over, then he shouldn't get dinner (what, are they next going to ask you to pack his "to go"?)
posted by suzanno 1 month agoYou are allowing this girl to cause you way too much stress. You can't change her so either uninvite her or just let it alllll go. Whatever she does, don't worry about it. Concentrate on all the great people who are coming and the fact that you are getting married!!
posted by Janna19 1 month agoI say you ignore her too. It sounds like you're letting her stress you out way too much. Smile, pay for his dinner, and focus on something better.
posted by livvie 1 month agoI'm not stressed as much as I am annoyed. Which is why I come ya'll to help me find non violent ways of dealing. I can't uninvite. I just can't i know it sound sterrible and most of you would have strung her up by now and beat her silly with bats....but I can't.
Ignoring works for me and I think I will take that road and I have taken oher advice that I have a "Cream Suace Handeler" (LOL) to keep her away from me on the wedding day.
I'm assuming she'll get annoyed and go home sooner then everyone else anyway.
Thanks again.,
posted by Sweeney2Be 1 month agoJust try to ignore her. Obviously she is just a real cranky/weird person or she is jealous of your happiness and festivities.
posted by QueenoftheClick 1 month agoagain.... feed her cake. but this time, give her 2 pieces. One for her 'DJ' mantoy (it shocks me she is even able to maintain a relationship!)
this biotch is bating you bigtime. she's a glory hog... I'd can her ass and say, "You know what, this is just too much drama and I think you'd be better served spending the evening with your boyfriend at his DJ gig at another wedding. And by the way unlike you, I'm not kidding."
and yes, I really would say that to her.
would you like me to pretend I'm you?
posted by glittergrl 1 month ago