- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
We have 9 days to go till the wedding. I feel as if everyone has lost their mind. We have had several people call and ask what time the rehearsal dinner is. Umm…it’s on the invite that you were mailed and acknowledged that you got it. I have had several people ask if their SO is invited. Is their name on the invite? Yes. Then they are invited. I didn’t just put their names on their for sh**s and giggles. FI’s dad asked if they are suppose to go to the rehearsal. Are you wearing a tux and special to the ceremony? Yes. Then you need to be there and on time.
We have several people in the wedding party who are NOTORIOUSLY late for everything. Even if you tell them to be there 30-45 minutes early, they are still late. They have all been informed that we are starting at a certain and if they are late, they won’t know what to do. If they are late the day of the wedding, then they won’t be in pictures. I am not their mother, they are grownups and should act accordingly. I can only remind someone so many times.
I have a bridesmaid who has yet to pick up her dress. The alterations lady made a special trip to my house to drop off my dress last week and pick up this bridesmaid’s dress to alter it for her. The BM was over 45 minutes late and made the alterations lady late for other things. The BM was told very spefically that the lady would be bringing the dress back Wednesday (yesterday ) to make sure it fit good and to collect payment. I had tried to reach this BM since Sunday. Either her cell phone was off or she didn’t answer. I couldn’t leave a message because both her home and cell voicemail was full. I texted her and no response. I finally email her on facebook yesterday afternoon telling her what time the lady would be bringing her dress down. The alterations lady lives 45 minutes away and was making a special trip to my house just to bring BM’s dress to her. BM finally calls me back and says she can’t do that time and would need to come about an hour later. I said no, she is making a trip down here just for you, if you can’ t make it then you will need to make arrangements to drive to her house and get your dress. BM was assuming I would pay for her dress. Even if I would, she still needed to try it on and make sure the alteration were good.
FI’s brother has called numerous times about what time he needs to be to the rehearsal and church. We have both told him at least 10 times. It’s on the invites.
I just don’t get it. I am beyond frustrated. I am so stressed out that people won’t show up on time. I know at least 6 who won’t be there on time.
I am done with all this. I wish we wouldn’t have had these people in the wedding. I guess I just don’t know how to be assertive and tell them to get their head out of their butt and pay attention. I mean seriously!