Post # 1
Current point of contention with my fiance: Save-the-Dates. Of our 260 wedding guests, four or five families really need a heads up about the wedding because they live far enough away that they’d have to spend four or five days in town if they come in for the wedding. Everyone else lives close to the venue … and most of those people already know our wedding date because we see them often enough.
So — my thought: Why waste time and money on STD’s? Just call/email/or write the four or five families in question to give them a heads up and call it a day. If we send invites three months out, that should be plenty of time for all of our other guests invited to the October affair. That’s not exactly a big vacation month.
Fiance says we should send STDs because people appreciate them.
Any and all advice is welcome.
Post # 3
I don’t think STD’s are neccessary AT ALL and I didn’t do them. I think they are cute and trendy, but ultimately unneccessary. I think a personal call or email would be just as appreciated, if not more. That way you get a chance to chat and share your excitement.
Post # 4
@riakd: Nope, not at all. I’ve read that STDs are really only necessary if you have a lot of OOT guests.
Post # 5
I’m only doing them because I’m having a Friday night wedding and want to give everyone the heads up far in advance for work time off, etc. Otherwise I don’t think they’re necessary, just inform the out of towners!
Post # 6
Word of mouth is probably fine. I think you have the right idea about just contacting the families, so just go ahead and do that. I was planning to send out save the dates but I’ve already heard from relatives about friends and family marking their calendars now…I was really happy to hear people were doing that on their own as soon as they found out the date. Saved us a lot of money and trouble!
Post # 7
Not necessary. Everyone invited has known our wedding date since we set it (almost a year ago). If you want them as guests at your wedding, you/fiancé/parents probably speak to them regularly enough to mention the date.
Post # 8
Not necessary at all, and unless it’s a DW I think they are a waste of money. You can call or email people if you want to give them a heads up.
I also think they complicate thing because once you send a STD you pretty much HAVE to invite them to the wedding. I don’t know about you, but my guest list has changed several times over the past few months and I feel better knowing that if someone pisses me off between now and the summer I’m not obligated to invite them because I already advised them they could expect an invitation.
Post # 9
I think they are a HUGE waste of money, and almost always end with someone wanting to change their mind, or inviting someone who they maybe wouldn’t have.
Post # 10
Word of mouth is probably fine, but you do need to let people know about your wedding in plenty of time just so they don’t make other plans.
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Why don’t you compromise and send a quickly designed e-mail save the date to everyone you KNOW you are going to invite? Then he gets them, and you don’t have to spend money on them