Post # 1
So we’ve already told all of our family members and closest friends. The only people we haven’t told are acquaintances and friends that we haven’t been in real close contact with in the last few months/years. Since all the important people know, would it be tacky to announce it on Facebook (FB) already (at a little over 6 weeks)? I had an ultrasound yesterday and got to see that it was a normal, intrauterine pregnancy, it’s heart was beating strong (which was amazing to see and hear!!) and all my bloodwork looked great and so did baby. I know a LOT can change in the next couple of months, but if I had a miscarriage (God forbid!!), I would most likely post about it. I’m not one for keeping secrets. I’m kind of like an open book and like to have support when I’m going through things. I also don’t like the stigma associated with certain things, where people feel too ashamed (or whatever) to talk about them. My sister (who has 3 kids) says that since all the important people know, I may as well post it on FB and enjoy being pregnant in public! Idk what to think. I don’t want to be judged for posting at only 6 or 7 weeks.
Post # 3
i wouldn’t judge someone for posting a pregnancy on FB that early. ultimately, it’s your decision. i think most women wait because of the chance of miscarriage but if you’re ok with having people know, then i don’t see why you can’t post it.
Post # 4
@crazydogmom: First, don’t worry what other people will think. Check my history and you will see I posted about this same topic a day ago.(: Second, if you will post about a miscarriage then why not post you are pregnant and enjoy it! I’m thinking about posting it too. I’m still torn.
Post # 5
I personally wouldn’t post this early but I’m really paranoid and private. If, God forbid, something happens and you are okay with the reaction from people afterwards, then go for it!
Post # 6
I dont think there’s anything wrong with postign on FB, but I dont think you should post it this soon… my friend announced it on FB when his wife was 5 weeks along, and she ended up miscarrying :[
and of course, he had to explain to them that there was no more baby.. eventually, he had to post a status telling everyone that his wife had miscarried and it was painful when people would ask him
SO sad… I think you should wait until you’re at least 12 weeks to announce it on FB.. but thats just me…
CONGRATS, btw!!! Thats sooo exciting! I can’t blame you for wanting to tell everyone :]
Post # 7
I would wait until around 12 weeks. The anticipation KILLED me but so much can change. I am glad you are so confident in your pregnancy – but at 12 weeks you will be just as confident! You can just make it so people can’t write on your wall so nobody spills the beans to your facebook friends in the mean time?
Post # 8
@crazydogmom: I have literally seen people post their pregnancy tests on FB very shortly after peeing on them, LOL, so no it wouldn’t be “crazy.” If you would be OK with posting about a loss (heaven forbid!), then it’s probably fine.
I would love to make a FB announcement already (I am 8 weeks 4 days) but I know that if something did end up happening, I would feel 1) like it was bad karma and 2) a lot of times people just don’t know what to say in sad/tragic times, so if I had to make another FB announcement, I would just be afraid of “acquaintances” comments. I know people are trying to be helpful sometimes, but I deal with losses much better by greiving privately and being allowed to act like a normal person around people I am not that close to. It can just create kind of a “grey cloud” if you will when a lot of people knew you were pregnant and then if you lost the baby. I just don’t want to have to experience that, even though everything is going perfectly fine with my pregnancy, too. Plus, since I have already gotten a few judgemental comments from my own family, I don’t even want to know what my medical school classmates would think/say (most people probably think I am a nut case for having a baby right now). I would be the hot gossip topic for a while, and I just want to put that off as long as possible haha.
Everyone is different, though, so just do what you feel comfortable with.
Post # 9
If I saw someone on fb post that soon I’d just be very nervous FOR them and worried for them. Happy, yes, but more worried for them than anything just in case something were to happen.
I’d wait until at least 12 weeks personally but in your case maybe try to hold out until 10 weeks. Practice your patience and it will be just as wonderful announcing then as it will be now, only you’ll have even more confidence that this will be a sticky baby by then. Congrats mama! 🙂
Post # 10
As long as you’re comfortable with it is all that matters. I’m 18 weeks and still haven’t said anything on Facebook. But that’s me and I have my reasons. If you’re an open person and talk about things anyway then hey! Congrats!!!
Post # 11
Personally I wouldn’t post it on facebook yet. You can tell friends, just maybe keep it off facebook. An old friend of ours posted that she was pregnant shortly after she took the test. She was due after us and we didn’t put it on facebook at that point yet. I was nervous for her. Everything was looking great at all of her appointments. She went into the 12 week ultrasound and the baby had died somewhere between the 8 week appointment and her 12 week appointment. She was devistated… and had to announce it to facebook. But she’s still getting comments about her “little baby” and how people can’t wait to see him/her or asking if she’s finding out the sex. Because they aren’t on facebook as much they missed the note about the miscarriage. She said it’s ripping open the pain and anger each time she gets a comment like that. I feel more horrible for her because of it.
Post # 12
@cowgirlace: Wow, you literally posted exactly everything I’m personally feeling for myself! That’s exactly the way I grieve and DH and I are all about the karma/evil eye type of thing!
Sorry for the threadjack, but I had to give you a shoutout!
Post # 13
I didn’t go facebook public until 13 weeks but I’m a fairly private person.
Post # 14
It is a little early, I think you should wait.
Post # 15
If you’re comfortable posting something that’s all that matters. Like you said if something were to happen, God forbid, you would be okay sharing that then I don’t see a problem.
But like others have said I too am more of a private person and posted at 16 weeks, and only then because one of my grandparents put something on facebook before I did!
Post # 16
@crazydogmom: I think you should do whatever makes you happy! We told all our close friends and family within days of finding out, which I know most people don’t do- but it’s what we wanted to do. We wanted our family and friends to be able to share in the excitement! We also know that if God forbid something went wrong, we would share it with those same people and we’d need their support. Plus, I’ve read that once there is a heartbeat, the risk of mc drops to 10%, so I understand you feeling more comfortable now that you’ve heard it. Do what you want, deciding when to announce is a personal decision and you should do it when you feel ready!