Post # 1
I was reading the post on how society would rank your guys. I noticed a lot of guys were ranked 8’s and it made me think of a conversation I had with Fiance. I said that knowing someone adds or subtracts attractiveness. Like FI’s goofy friend who would probably be rated a 3 but because I know him and know he’s really a sweet guy I would probably rate him a 5. Or FI’s ex wife, I thought she was reasonably attractive but after I found out about what she did to him she lowered on that scale. Fiance is different though, he said that when he checks out women if their face is so so but their body is amazing they still rate higher but if they have a gorgeous face but are heavier in the body he rates them lower. I guess on my part I lower/raise points on emotional things, which is one reason I could never honestly rate Fiance because I’m biased. Where Fiance seems to lower or raise it completely on a superficial level. Even when he knows the person he doesn’t raise their number, they don’t get more attractive in his eyes where in my eyes they do. Do you find this to be true? Do you rate on emotional attachment or do you maintain purely physical? What about your FI?
Post # 3
I remember reading an article a while back that basically stated what your Fiance said: The majority of men polled (a few thousand for this study) said they’d take a hot body with not so great face over a gorgeous face and not so great body. I’ve also witnessed this in my own life.
Post # 4
I can’t be attracted to a guy unless he meets some emotional and intellectual standards, so yes, I’d believe that your experience is true!
Post # 5
I would rate purely based on looks. I think there is physical attractiveness, then there is probably a different type of attractiveness based on other factors.
Post # 6
Oh yeah, my emotions definitely sway my opinion! Recently, my husband and I were clearing out my storage and came upon a box of old photos, many of which were of people I had dated. He was shocked at some of the guys in the photos and how unattractive he thought they were. But each of those guys had something about them that made them more attractive than they looked. I have dated fat guys, thin guys, bald guys, old guys, and I have been just as attracted to each of them because they had some really awesome quality that went beyond their looks for me.
Post # 7
I totally agree! Some of my exes certainly got less attractive as the relationship went on. 🙂 LOL.
Although, I’d take a nice face on my man with a so-so body over a butterface. And, I think my Fiance prefers a pretty face, too.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
I find that if a person has an ugly personality I view them as ugly. If someone is nice, thoughtful etc I view them as attractive.
Post # 9
There have definitely been guys I’ve met that dropped from a 10 to a 2 within minutes of meeting/talking to them. lol Definitely has a lot to do with their personality and probably a bit of their brain power 🙂
Post # 10
If someone looks dirty and ungroomed or something, then yah that sways my initial opinion. But that can of course be overcome by personality as I get to know them. But I just can’t help the initial reaction.
Post # 11
@ShutterbugCait: Interesting question.
My fiance and I were actually talking about this a couple of weeks ago. I can’t remember what brought it up, but he mentioned that he often feels that people seem more or less attractive depending on their intellect, the way they treat others, and even their confidence. I’d have to agree.
I’ve known people (men and women) who I thought were attractive at first, but then got to know them and they were total jerks … They didn’t look as good after that. Conversely, I’ve known people I didn’t find attractive based solely on looks who became better looking as I got to know what amazing people they were.