Post # 1
Here’s the deal. I had 3 bridesmaids (my sister -moh-) ,my best friend from high school, and another girl from high school.
My sister is the only one left standing with me. The first girl and I got into a fight about how we just aren’t as close as we used to be and her wedding is in 3 weeks and well..I’m not in it anymore so she’s not in mine. The second Bridesmaid told me she would be too busy with school in April so she couldn’t be in the wedding then proceeded to tell me to wait to have the wedding or none at all.
I..I don’t know what to do. It meant the world to me to be able to look back and see at least one girl who had been through it all with me (the one who’s wedding is in 3 weeks.)
My sister and I have never been all that close, but I know she’ll always be the one there for me, hence why I asked her to be my MOH. Melissa (wedding in 3 weeks) just..I guess we aren’t going to make our friendship last like I was trying to force it. What am I supposed to do..
I mean, I honestly don’t have anyone in mind except a girl I know from work who has been really helpful throughout the whole wedding planning stuff..it just really feels like I’m going to be standing with no one to look back to when I say “I do”.
Post # 3
I am really sorry that you’re having such a crummy time with your ex-bridesmaids. I really think that you should just try to enjoy your wedding the most you can and be happy that your sister is the one who is going to be there. In the end of it all, this is a day for you and your FI to celebrate your love for each other. Try to focus on that.
Post # 4
that’s what my sister said but I have known both of them for over 5 years and it is the hardest thing to let them go after all we’ve been through.
Post # 5
@Tole: I know it feels like crap. I had 2 really good best”friends” since highschool and as of last year we stopped talking because of a few reasons. And now that I am planning my wedding I kind of resent them for not being here for me but I guess you grow up and things change. Remember its all for the best and this day should be happy and about your love for each other!
Post # 6
Don’t be one of those girls. Call up the one who was important to you after her wedding is over and the stress on her is gone and tell her exactly what you wrote here to all of us
“It meant the world to me to be able to look back and see at least one girl who had been through it all with me (the one who’s wedding is in 3 weeks.)”
If it’s that important to you suck it up and don’t be cady.
Post # 7
If you don’t want to let them go as friends you don’t have to, just make an effort and I am sure that whatever rift is there will be patched up eventually. What’s meant to be will be and if you are really good friends I am sure you will learn to forgive eachother.
When it comes to your wedding, its about you and your FI, so it doesn’t really matter if you have someone “to look back to” when you say “I do”, just look straight forward at the man you love! That is a beautiful blessing to have in your life and that’s what you are there celebrating! 🙂 It may be hard thinking about not having bridesmaids, but there is SO much more to be happy about.
Post # 8
@mwitter80: yeah I already did that, thanks, though. I told her how much it meant for her to be in my wedding and for her support but she told me we’re acting like a couple that is trying to make a relationship work that just isn’t going to. I was supposed to be a huge part in her wedding representing her brother who had passed away because I was the only one really there for her in her eyes. But now I guess it’s over and I might as well just get over it..
Post # 9
That’s too bad. I hope you do work it out with her, since her presence means so much to you.
But in the meantime, why DON’T you ask your friend from work? Even if you’re not best best best friends, the planning progress will almost certainly bring you closer together. And then whether or not you make up with your other BM, you’ll have a sister and at least one friend there to support you and make you smile.