Post # 1
We found a photographer in our area that has altered her fees and services to work with us and our small budget. She does AMAZING work, is totally adorable, personable and we both feel very comfortable with her. Also, we live in Santa Barbara, so everything is slightly more expensive then other ares of California. We are cutting corners on EVERYTHING since we are paying for the wedding on our own. One thing though, I want nice photos. It’s the one tangible thing that we will have from the big day.
I don’t know why, but I shared the cost with a couple of family members (who live in a different part of Californian and don’t understand SB-pricing). They both flipped and kept going on and on and on about the cost. I laid out my reasons why we are spending money on a photographer and even found, much to my chagrin, getting a little defensive. One relative commented that just “random people” took photos at my cousin’s wedding and it was free! Yeaaa….and sorry, but their photos were horrible. I want something nicer.
I just feel like there are people in my life who think I should just settle for subpar items. We are being really frugal in other areas, I just want some great pictures! Is that so wrong!?!?
This happened last night and I am still bugged.
Post # 3
Rule #1 – don’t discuss finances about the wedding. Some people just don’t get it.
Our photos is right up there on our priority list and I don’t want to regret not spending the extra money to get pics that I am confidant we want.
And, the bad thing is, I’m sure the relatives have already told others “oh my God, I can’t believe how much money they’re spending on stupid pictures”.
Like I said, some people just don’t get it. Live and learn. It’s your wedding and only you can justify how much you think the day is worth.
Post # 4
People will always think that you spend too much. Oh, well if they think you spent too much that’s their opinion. Just ignore them.
Post # 5
My fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves. Other than the two of us, no one knows how much we’re spending on anything. I realize you’ve already inadvertently blurted out an amount to these people – just try to not tell them anything else, and ignore their comments. The only people who get to judge whether something is worth how much it costs are the people paying for it. (Oh, and FYI – photography was one of our splurge areas, too. Other than your spouse, those photos will be the only physical proof you’ll have of your wedding once it’s over.)
Post # 6
One of the wedding planning books I read recommended to pick three items that really matter to you and focus on them, because if you focus on the items that really matter to you, you will be much happier in the end with your wedding. I also chose photography as one of my priorities, and I was very happy with that decision. I also agree with the bees above – don’t discuss finances with anyone who isn’t writing a check to help pay for your wedding, and lie about wedding finances whenever necessary to anyone who isn’t involved in paying for your wedding.
Post # 7
forget everyone. These are memories to remember a lifetime and blurry out of focus pics are not memories.
Post # 8
The photog was high on my list of priorities too. My head was full of dreams of modern, urban, photojournalistic e-pics and wedding pics. I couldn’t believe it when I saw the price of my dreams.
But, in the end we have a fab photog and he also gave us an amazing deal. It was something that I wouldn’t compromise on.
Just feel satisfied that your wedding pics will be awesome.