Post # 1
I was just wondering how many of you live with your future husbands & if so…whether you had issues with your priest over this issue?
We own a home together and I have heard horror stories of priests demanding that one person move out for a period of time before the wedding.
Just wondering what other people’s experiences have been.
Post # 3
We lived together for… maybe 3 years before we got married and we had no problems getting married in the Catholic church. This type of problem is really priest-specific, though: some priests care, some don’t. As long as you’re honest and open to discussing your situation with your priest, you’ll probably be fine. 🙂 Good luck!
Post # 4
I’m not the Catholic, he is. We’ve lived together for about 2 years. We just met w/ his Deacon this past weekend. He asked us the “do you live together” question and he didn’t care… its for financial reasons, but he said Monsignor would hassle us about it. Aside from uncomfortable feelings due to questions making me feel like a bad person, no biggie. 😉
Post # 5
We live togather and had no problems, thankfully! I was worried too though to be honest. Good luck!
Post # 6
Thanks everyone! Sorry for reposting a much debated question on the “Catholic thread”. After I posted I read older posts and realized I could have just read those for info. haha
We’re definitely going to be open and honest about it. I guess I was just curious about what others have encountered.
I’m sure I’ll be back to “vent” if all doesn’t go smoothly this weekend!
Post # 7
I lived with my fiance…before we started dating! We actually lived in the same house for a year doing a volunteer program together. Now I live with roommates and he lives on his own. It’s a little different. We do get teased about how we’ve already lived together!
Post # 8
There were 23 couples in our marriage preparation course and all but one were cohabitating and about half had children with their partner. Not one couple was made to feel bad about this at all which I thought was great!
Post # 9
It’s really a priest-specifid question. Our priest asked us for our addresses. I gave him the address of my house and FI gave him the address of his house. The priest didn’t inquire further than that. If he had, we’d have had to admit that FI pretty much lives with me.
Post # 10
I live with my fiance, it’s because of dire financial issues and no other choice. I’m hoping my priest is understanding. My fiance and I have separate rooms so we’re living chastely.
Post # 11
We have been living together for about 2.5 years, and our priest just talked to us about that decision, and how we came to it etc. and then he was fine with it. I think they want to see that you didnt dive into the decision lightly… at least thats what our priest said!
Post # 12
Well he is Catholic, I’m not. This WAS the one issue that kept coming up. Our priest isn’t refusing to marry us, but we did get lectured on it. We were told on multiple occassions that nothing special will change between us once we’re married like it is “supposed to happen”. That annoyed me, because we feel like what we have is very special and will still be enhanced by marriage. This also led to be grilled on whether we have sex. THAT was the worst part. I hated discussing my sex life with total strangers and being judged and told that we were basically doing things all wrong. But we learned to just smile and nod and cringe through the awkwardness. Now thank goodness the next time I see anyone church related it’ll be when I walk down the aisle 🙂