Post # 1
How do you tell the bride without huring her feelings that it is dishonorable to the grooms family to seat her sisters in the front pew on the grooms side. The groom has only one sister who is taking time off work without pay and has the expense of traveling 1000 miles to attend the wedding.
Post # 3
While you find it dishonoring, it seems like the bride does not.
How does the groom feel about it?
Is there not room on the front pew on the groom’s side for the grooms family? If not, where does the bride plan to seat the grooms family?
Post # 4
I think that you can tell her that it might be nice to have the families seperate during the reception. The real mixing occurs at the reception! However, if there isn’t room on her family’s side, it’s her decision and you will have to accept that. I’m sure you can do that graciously and it is thoughtful of you to think of how it might upset others.
Post # 5
Can the groom tell the bride that the first row on his side should be reserved for his immediate family? When he looks around to the pew immediately behind him where he is standing, it will be more comforting to him to see the support of his own sister, instead of the bride’s sisters, even if he likes and respects them very much too.
I think if you say the word "dishonorable" to someone, it will put the other person on the defensive, which might start something…
Why do the bride’s sisters have to be in the front pew anyway? If the bride’s first row is taken up by her parents, grandparents, etc, and there is no room, then the second row for the sisters is still a good seat. In my opinion, any seat near the aisle is better for pew seating, no matter what row!
If the groom’s immediate family can fit in the front row, then they should be there. Especially if the groom’s immediate family is smaller, then they should have the front row on the groom’s side.
If it were me, after both immediate families have their seats in the first few pews, then the rest of the pews can be mixed. We’re probably not doing bride’s side/groom side for the other guests.