Post # 1
I’ve been married now for just over 2 months and there have been parts that have been wonderful, but others that have been not so much. Once the wedding was over I kind of freaked out inside, I couldn’t believe that the wedding was over. That I had taken these vows to this man and would be with him for the rest of my life. Reality kicked in and I started worrying about DH being unemployed, about our life together, about being a good wife. We’ve defn. had our ups, but we’ve been bickering like crazy about meaningless things. We never used to fight. On top of this all, our sex life has kind of dwindled down. We’re both stressed out DH with trying to find a job, me with life in general plus I’ve had some major issues at work with my boss. I’ve found that I’m not near as optimistic as I use to be, I feel blah most days. Before the wedding I worked hard, worked out and felt great about myself and my relationship. I still love my DH with all of my heart, don’t get me wrong but just don’t feel the spark as much as I used to. I have no self control when it comes to food anymore and I’m becoming more and unhappy with my looks. Has anyone who was married went through this? I feel like a horrible wife L
Post # 3
Well I am not married yet, but I have heard that the first year of marriage is usually the hardest for most couples, as it is a big period of adjustment. Here in the UK, a large percentage of divorces occur among couples who have been married less than 2 years.
So I don’t think you’re abnormal or there is anything wrong with your relationship. You’re just adjusting.
Post # 4
I agree with BellsForHer. I also hear that the first year is the hardest, you guys will pull through! As for the weight gain, isn’t true that a lot of people struggle with the post wedding weight? Ha ha!! You should be fine. I’m not married yet either but I’ve certainly seen and heard of this many times!:)
Post # 5
You guys need to do something to get that spark back! 🙂 Go to dinner. Go for a walk on a beach? Have a picnic? Do something that it’s just the two of you that you both will enjoy and not think of other things like him finding a job, stressful things etc. Take some time out for eachother. & what Bellsforher said is true! I’ve heard the same thing. Work through it talk to eachother and things shall get better. He may just be stressed or having a hard time dealing with being unemployed. Guys & their EGOS.. u know he may feel bad because he is the man and he may feel like he’s supposed to be supporting you.
I can kind of relate, lately my FI & I have been arguing a lot too! :/ making me think twice about getting married!
Have you seen Fireproof? You should watch it.. very good movie about marriage.
Don’t give up hang in there 🙂