(Closed) Family

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I am sorry you are having a rough time with your family. Though I am a little confused. If you cant afford a photographer without donations from the family why/how are you having a 200 person wedding?

Post # 5
Member
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Oh ok! Sorry that just wasnt making sense to me. I hope everything works out for you! Just try and not stress and surround yourseld with the people who care and are there for you. Just a few more weeks until you and your FI get to celebrate your love for each other. Thats all that really matters.

Post # 7
Member
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I felt sorry for you until it got here:

we’re talking $10-20, for help towards our pictures.. and everyone “doesn’t have it” which I understand.. but don’t say that, then talk about all these dinners n such and gloat about things.. 


Maybe they’re saying they don’t have it because they see it as rude that you’re asking for this money. Yes, even if it’s family, it will rub people the wrong way. They are not obligated to help you pay for your wedding…or to feel guilty about having dinners out…or to help you with DIY projects, etc. etc. Neither is your bridal party.

FI and I got engaged in Sept. 2012. We are paying for the wedding. We had to postpone because different stuff came up. Nobody is helping me with anything, no centerpieces, decor, etc. You and your FI are adults. Plan and execute your wedding.

If it’s too much:

change the date

slash the guest list

don’t get things that are outside your budget

or just elope

 

Post # 9
Member
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

dang that’s kinda harsh.  shit happens and when you already have contracts or set plans to have something, sometimes you have to ask for help.  whether you get it or not is up to who you ask and what kind of relationship you have with them.  i don’t see a problem with it in the situation that OP described. 

i feel like you could have been talking about my (extended)family.  my parents are constantly helping them out but when you ask them for a favor they balk and refuse.  doesn’t make sense to me.  my parents are not in a great financial situation but they are helping where they can.

i hope things work out for the best.  remember that the day is about celebrating your new life with your husband.  don’t let asshole family members ruin that for you.

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