Post # 1
So I made a faux-pas and don’t know how to remedy it. One of FI’s cousins and her new husband who I don’t know too well moved recently and we didn’t know it. We sent them their save the date and it was returned to us in the mail. Lame. We got so caught up in our lives that we never found their new address and sent it out – we meant to but we didn’t. Gr. This was about two weeks ago.
I get an e-mail from her sister who has a social disability – she asked why her sister wasn’t invited. I felt so guilty and immediately talked to FI – but I just received an email from the father apologizing for the daughter e-mailing and being “a nuisance.” He said he understood we have to make our own choices about the wedding.
I feel so badly about this!!! If only I had gotten my shit together and sent it out two weeks ago. How do I make this right without them feeling like we are pity-inviting them?!
Post # 3
Why don’t you just tell them exactly what happened? That you sent them a STD to their old address but it was returned to you, that it took you awhile to find their new address and you were still going to send them one.
Post # 4
I would just tell them exactly what you wrote here. It was just a misunderstanding and you didn’t mean for anyone’s feelings to be hurt. It’s only 2 weeks, you can redeem yourself…it’s not like it was months and there was no excuse for you to not have sent it. Just be honest. Good Luck
Post # 5
Do you still have the envelope of the original STD? Just show them and make a joke out of it! Anyone could understand an honest mistake.
Post # 6
I would repackage the STD in a new envelope along with a note explaining what happened. That way they will know for sure that it’s not a change of heart on your part.
Post # 7
Just tell them the truth, they will understand, you are planning a wedding and not responsible to get every one’s new address immediately. I think it’s fine.
Post # 8
If it had been months and months, I would feel like it was a pity invite. This situation is totally understandable and I wouldn’t be offended at all if it was me!
Post # 9
Just explain the situation. She’ll either believe you and be cool with it or you won’t. The best you can do is tell the truth.
Post # 10
I agree with the others. Just tell her about it, she will totally understand especially since they just moved.
Post # 11
I had 3 people’s STDs come back. I let them know what happened and I resent it. They were fine with it.