Post # 1
Is it just me or do less and less people stick by their word. When we sent out the save the dates all our guest knew it was a destination wedding out of the country and right off the bat many people told me in person that they will for sure be there…blah blah blah. RSVP time comes and a lot of those people ended up declining with a variety of excuses when push came to shove.
My bachelorette party is this weekend, my sister who is very young is planning it and has dealt with many girls who have been flaking last minute. She made sure to put out several dates to choose from so the most people can attend. This weekend worked for most people and now all of sudden the people who supposedly had the weekend free are dropping out. One of my best friends planned a random trip to Jamaica over this weekend after telling my sister she was going to attend and still hasn’t told my sister she can’t come. She told me but wouldn’t it be considerate to alert the organizer?
I don’t get it. I am the type of person who does what she says she will do. If I am not sure I can commit to something I would never say "I will be there for sure!" I am just feeling a little annoyed. Seems like you can’t take anyone for their word anymore. Have we become a culture of flakiness, empty promises, and all talk. It seems like those who do what they say are the exception.
I am not one who thinks the world revolves around my wedding, I understand if people can’t go to the wedding or BP. What I don’t understand is saying you will go then not going. There seems to be no shame in flaking out and just saying things you don’t mean. Did any of you see more of a flaky/inconsiderade side of your friends and family during the wedding planning process?
Post # 3
I think the most aggrivating are the people who CHANGE their plans after they supposedly made plans with you. Like a trip to Jamaica. Seriously? Makes you want to kick a puppy.
Post # 4
I think it’s obnixious. It drove me crazy while planning my wedding (and in everyday life). People don’t seem to have the common decency to keep true to their word. We have people either change their minds and bail or not respond at all to all of our wedding activities- shower, bach parties, rehearsal dinner, wedding, brunch. EVERY SINGLE EVENT had multiple people bail/flake. Most gave no reason at all!
It’s incredibly rude and it’s really hard to be polite when it happens.
I feel your pain!
Post # 5
@ Sapphire- Kick a puppy—LOL
@ RosyChicklet- Oh yes….the no response at all is the worst! I got a no response from a bridesmaid for the BP. My sister had to nail her down on the phone after the invite and several emails. The least you can do is give a polite decline.
Post # 6
yeah…this is probably not the best way to handle it, but I have seriously re-evaluated my relationships with people. If I spent $1500 to be in your wedding, flew in for your shower, planned your BP and paid for your fare there, the least you can do is show up to something you RSVPd to. Seriously. Basically, people are selfish. I realize that and I understand that I cant do anything about it…but it does change my perception of you…
Post # 7
@FutureMrsMorgan – I too feel the same way. My dad told me when I was little that when I get older I will have fewer and fewer friends. I can totally see why now. People just really disappoint me sometimes. Luckily there are always a few shining stars who make up for the duds. Those are the treasures we should hold on to right?