Post # 1
Its less than a week away that FI and I will live in the same house again after 3 years of being over a 1000 miles away from each other. Even though I’m very excited, this post is not about that. I moved to a completely unknown city where we know no one. Not suprisingly, I’m homesick. My new job seems good and the house we rented seems good but I miss my family and my friends.
Back home I’d be heading out to drinks with my best friend of 20 years and MOH. I’d meet my running buddies in the morning. I’d go up to my parents house to walk the dogs and ride the horses and see their new chickens and have dinner. I’d go see my grandpa on Sunday and bring him a Mcdonalds milkshake. I’d see my FMIL and talk about the wedding. But here I am just in a strange house alone with no friends and no where to go.
I know its new and I’ll adjust and it will be better when FI is here but I love my family and friends and my old city and I’m afraid it will always be “second best” here. I’m one of those people who would love to live in the same neighborhood as my family and FI’s family and I’m just sad they are so far away.
Post # 3
I can relate to how miserable you must feel at the moment. The sudden change must be the hardest part. I’m sure it will pass as you start to build a new life and make new acquaintances. Your friends will stay friends and family will stay family. And who knows, maybe the opportunity to live in the same neighborhood will come up in the future!
I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about situations like yours- because that is what I will most likely face next year. After finishing school, FI and I plan to get married and live together. For me that means moving across an ocean. I’m okay with the being apart from family because I have lots of family in the US, but I’m worried about leaving my friends. They’re such a big part of my life, and after I move to the US at first FI will be the only person I really know. I hope this won’t strain our relationship.
Post # 4
I know exactly how you feel! After a LDR with my DH we finally moved in together in a new town 20 hours away from our home town. I’m not going to lie, it’s hard!
I’ve kept myself busy with our pets and working out at the gym, but sometimes I get tearful thinking about all of the things you have just said. It’s just not the same trying to make new friends 🙁
I just stay as positive as I can. Lately I have tried joining some classes at the gym so that I can make some new yoga friends or girlfriends to go jogging with on the weekends. If you stay positive about it all, you can really make it work!
Good luck 🙂 Keep your head up!