Post # 1
The first month of my five month engagement required soooo much work. I’m in the lull now, but used to that frenetic pace. Now I wonder, what did I do with my time and energy before I was engaged? Who am I now that I am a bride? What will I do when this wedding is over?
I must have spent a lot of time on the attracting of a possible mate. Hmmm…
Anyone else having indentity thoughts? Wonder what you ever did before planning this thing? What are you going to do after?
Post # 3
If you spent a lot of time attracting this mate before you were engaged, after you are married you will spend a lot of time keeping him!
I try to concentrate every day on acting in the ways I did when we were first dating. Treating him with the same courtesy, politeness, saying thank you, doing nice things just because, giving him the benefit of the doubt…. I never want to become one of those couples that is so comfortable with one another that they quit being nice to each other. I’m not saying that I’m being fake or inauthentic, just that I try to be the best version of myself everyday. I like to think it’s what keeps us in love. We all have bad days of course…I just try hard for every day not to be a bad day.
My best advice is that you should never stop dating your partner, even when you have been married 50 years.