Potluck

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@snd485:  You sound so sweet so I am not going to be as blunt as I usually would be, lol. When someone is hosting an event, it is rude to ask guests to provide food for said event. It would be like you having your wedding but telling guests to bring their own beer and dessert. Whatever the hosts can afford to provide is what should be there. I’d happily buy you a gift or give you cash but I would not want to be cooking/baking for someone else’s party. I can always write a cheque, but I can’t always guarantee I will have time to prepare food for lots of people.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@snd485:  If the dish and recipe is supposed to be the gift, then I would think it ok.  I think it’d be kind of fun actually!  But you’d have to know your guests.  Some might frown upon it because it would be like asking your guests to help host your event.  But I imagine most people would be cool about it though. I think it would only be tacky if you asked them to bring a dish AND a gift.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I went to a recipe/kitchen-themed shower and the hostess (bride’s sister/MOH I think) contacted a few of the guests to ask if they could prepare their signature dishes ahead of time.  It was less like a picnic and more like a hosted event.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

In my circle potlucks are very common, I had three showers and two of them were potluck desserts! I also know a couple who did what you’re thinking of, and everyone loved it. I think it just depends on the people you know though, not everyone is open to that kind of thing.

Post # 7
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492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013 - Callanwolde Fine Arts Center

I really like the idea of a recipe shower, but the potluck portion will really depend on the people you’re inviting. You could always just have guests bring their favorite recipe, either printed out or written on matching recipe cards, depending on how much planning/prep work the BMs want to put into it.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Personally I think it’s a little tacky.  If it’s obvious your doing a cheap shower/bachelorette party than I think most will be more likely to accept it.  It also depends on the type of people that you are inviting.

Edit:With that being said if I ever get invited to one I would still probably go.

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