Post # 1
Okay… so I am probably the worst Bride to be with my next comments…but Im posting them so hopefully someone can relate with what I am speaking about. First and foremost, I love and adore my FH. We have dated for 4 years and I have never had a doubt that he is the one for me. I look forward to our lives together. With that being said however, I am feeling a bit resentful. When we started this whole wedding process we agreed that we would do the planning and preparation together. Initially, we started the process together in searching and find a venue and church. However, as the process has gone along he has really taken a back seat. I’ve tried several times to get him involved by asking him to help with preparations and the like. It is always met with “I’m too busy I have to do this and this.” I absolutely adore him and understand that he is busy. But, part of me feels like he doesn’t care enough about the wedding or me to be truly involved. Has anyone else felt like this? Any advice?
Post # 3
I would give it to him in small doses. Instead of saying ‘What flowers should we have?”, show him examples of a few centerpieces that he can choose from. Guys do not get into the details like we do and by giving them too many options, you are just overloading them and making it hard to make a decision.
Post # 4
He cares, he really does. He just doesn’t care about living and breathing wedding planning like the us ladies here 🙂
I recommend not discussing details everyday. Pick 1 time to sit down and go through some stuff, then take a break. Guys just don’t really get into it the same way we do.
He obviously loves you very much (he proposed, right?) but his idea of a wedding may mean “We’re spending the rest of our lives together” whereas brides think, “What colors, dress, flowers, etc, etc”
Talk about the big stuff, set aside the small stuff to save for talking with your girls or the us.
It really is just a guy thing.
Post # 5
I really wouldn’t worry about it, when you two said you would plan your wedding toether, he probably had a different idea of what ‘planning’ a wedding is than you do.
You think, every single detail. He thinks, picking a venue, tasting food, honeymoon planning, and that’s about it. It’s not that he doesn’t want to marry you, it’s that he doesn’t care if you use garden roses or peonies in your bouquet. Just a guy thing I think.
Post # 6
Most guys don’t care about the wedding so long as the people they want are there and there’s good food.
I’d say if you try and involve him in everything you’ll just continue to be frustrated. I’d involve him in major decisions. Find a venue you like (or two) then have him come see it before you book it. Same with invites – I had my FI look over my final draft to make sure he liked the wording. Go ahead and set up a tasting and just ask him to come.