Post # 1
Please share with me some of your tactics when your man is taking you for granted. He used to call me daily….(we are living together but I think it is sweet to stay in touch during the day). That stopped and then I called him daily. Then it turned into I would call him…then he would call me back…then take longer to call me back…and longer and longer…and now….doesn’t even bother. When I get home he makes it seem like everything is fine which for the most part it is…but I’m starting to feel it in other areas…and it is the same kind of mentioned pattern. Merci!
Post # 3
To me the word “tactics” sounds like you want to do something passive aggressive or emotionally manipulative. I would just talk to him! Tell him that you feel less important than you used to since he doesn’t call. Don’t be accusatory, just ask him for a little more TLC. Guys aren’t mind readers, so I always find the best way to get what you want is to ask for it.
Post # 4
My tactic…talking to my husband about how I’m feeling.
Post # 5
@sda519: Hmm, I don’t really have any tactics, but I do voice my unhappiness about things like this immediately. Guys are terrible with hints or clues, if you just say something like “why haven’t you returned my calls” or “why don’t you text me anymore” he’ll probably have a better understanding of what’s upsetting you.
Post # 6
Hm. I would be annoyed if my Fiance called me every day even though we live together, and if he then complained I didn’t return his calls even when he had nothing really important to say, I would be even more annoyed. Unless it was an emergency. Maybe your SO just isn’t super-chatty during the day, or is busier at work than he used to be, or needs a little more down time from you. I wouldn’t characterize it as a lack of appreciation.
The fact that he’s doing this in other areas could be that he perceives your behaviour as a little needy/dependent, and is trying to slowly wean you off of it. But I’m just making stuff up based on how I’d feel in that situation, since I don’t know him or you.
Post # 7
Yeah… what others have said. My SO usually texts me throughout the day, lets me know when he’s leaving work, comes home for lunch with me and after work we cuddle on the couch & talk about our days. The other day he didn’t do ANY of that. He came home after work, said he needed to make a call and sat in the kitchen. When he didn’t get the guy on the phone he just sat in there playing with his phone. It was REALLY weird for us. So I texted him “Hey. Whatcha doin?” and he came over and sat with me. I asked what was up and he had just had a long, bad day. He didn’t even realize he was being weird.
Post # 8
I would talk to him and tell him how much you like your daily call, and how much you need for him to make you feel important.
Since you guys live together maybe he thinks that a phonecall would be irrelevant, but I don’t know about any tatics. My boyfriend sometimes forget that I need some extra love (especially in some part of the month :P) and I always tell him, how much more happy I feel when he takes the time to make me feel special, even if it’s something as small as a SMS or phonecall.
Post # 9
We live together we don’t need to call each other.
We DO always make a point to spend time with each other.
– We cook dinner TOGETHER.
– We eat dinner TOGETHER.
– We spend at least 15 minutse talking about our DAY. Even if it’s just small talk.
– We always say ” I love you “, and “goodnight” before bed.