Post # 1
I know that weddings tend to be a time where people give you things/ are helpful. But I never really expected anyone to help me with anything. I went full into this thinking I was going to do it with just me and my FI. But, I have been amazed at the love and kindness people have shown in the last week or so.
My mom offered to buy my dress, and in the long run we spent way more on it than I was ever expecting to spend. And, a family friend is going to pay for our invitations and my cousin is going to cater for us, for just the cost of food.
We had a very small budget due to us trying to get into a house soon. And we were going to have the wedding at a VFW near our house, TBH it was ugly as sin but I was determined to make it work anyway I could. Nothing was going to put a damper on my wedding, I didn’t care if I had to spend 4 months hand sewing drapes to cover the tacky celling.
Well, now because of the cost others have covered I get to have my wedding in a stress free venue that I actually like. Sure I still have to DIY some but the building is pretty without decorations, it also has men and Ladies dressing rooms and a full size kitchen. I did not think I would be able to have something like this but I am overjoyed and So grateful.
What have people done for you that have surprised you and made your wedding better?
Post # 4
@Ibblet: That is wonderful!
Post # 5
no wedding as yet but what you have sounds like a dream for SO and me. We too are hoping to get a house and don’t want to spend too much on a wedding
Post # 6
@Ibblet: My FI has surprised me by taking the lead on everything – booking venue appointments, choosing colours, even researching dresses. We are doing a simple elopement so not much outside help is required.
Post # 7
My mum’s are really helping, they are doing all the cayering (again at cost), another friend is lending us his fancy old car and just charging a normal taxi rate to be the driver. My aunt and cousins are coming round the day before to help (do most of) the flower arranging as that is not my strength. My grandmother bought my dress and veil. Friend’s bands are playing (although we ate paying them and my dad managed to convince someone to lwnd us a Coconut Shy for free. Now a coconut shy is not something I planned to have at the wedding, but hey,it’s free and will be fun.
Wow,writting that has made me really appreciate it all, I’ve been getting to that stage where I just want it done now, but that has made me happy and appreciative again.
Oh and FI has been awesome, he’s helped when he can and supported me in the moments when it’s all been too much.
Post # 8
Oops that was meant to start “Mum’s friends”
Post # 9
@RECrerar: THis morning I was kinda having a rough start to the day, but then I got an email from my MOH responding to the venue pictures and it made me really really appreciate everything.
@MrsPanda99: That is awesome it is so cool that he is helping so much. The event guy at our venue was shocked that my Fi was there to look as well
Post # 10
@Ibblet: Everyone always acts really shocked that FI is present at the appointments too. He gets offended and says, “why wouldn’t I be here?!” His indignation is pretty cute. It is really important to us to have something intimate and romantic with my parents present as witnesses. Also, the photography element is huge – we both want pictures to look back on.
Post # 11
My parents keep trying to pay for the wedding in full and I decline their offers mainly because they will try to control it.
BUT they said they will give us enough money after the wedding as a down payment on a new home, for which FI and I will be eternally grateful. I figure that’s a better use of their money anyways.
Post # 12
@Ibblet: I was shocked when my MIL offered to pay for our photography. It was originally one of the things that we were going to skimp on (only have ceremony photos), but she stepped in because the pictures were so important to her. My husband was really the most amazing person throughout wedding planning though. He paid for the majority of our wedding (I don’t work) and was always helpful and supportive, so glad I married this man.
Post # 13
@akirasan: I agree about the down payment. My Fi kept telling me we could wait a year or two on the house and I could have a bigger wedding but I insisted that I ould rather skimp on the wedding to have a house sooner.
@housebee: 🙂 That is super sweet
Post # 14
That’s awesome! We actually found out over the weekend that my parents were planning to contribute significantly to the honeymoon. I did not expect it at all, but I’m so appreciative of their gift. FI and I were adamant that we would not accept money from either set of parents because we want to be in complete control of our plans and want to avoid family drama. Rather than paying for the wedding itself, my parents decided to make the honeymoon their wedding gift to us. This may also explain why they’ve been hounding me with questions over the past several months about where we wanted to go. It all makes sense now.
Post # 15
I know it’s been a few months since anyone has responded, but I love this board so much and I feel I have so much to be thankful for myself. Our original plan was to pay for the wedding completely, just the two of us. However, my FFIL told us that he would give us $1,000 as our wedding present. On Thanksgiving my FMIL told us that she would match that and give us $1,000 to help pay for the wedding, in addition to paying for the rehearsal dinner (which is a big deal when you’re working with a $5,000 budget!). Also, I have worked with a florist in the past and she will be doing our flowers for a very reasonable price, and I have a friend who is a baker and she will do our cake for free if I pay for the ingredients! In addition, I just bought my dress, which was an absolute steal ($838 for my “dream dress” from a legitimate salon – I was willing to pay so much more), and I just ordered my FI’s ring for a verrrrry reasonable price. Oh yes, and I won free makeup application from a raffle at a bridal show (and the MUA’s portfolio is awesome)!
I am so incredibly thankful for all these things. We’ve had some extreme setbacks in the past due to outside events and we’ve been wanting to get married for about two years now, but just couldn’t afford to. Now, we’ve only been engaged for three months and everything just seems to be falling into place. 😀
Post # 16
Wow, that’s great you have so many generous people in your life 🙂
FIL’s told us a few weeks ago that they were gifting us $5000 to help pay for the wedding, and my cousins generously offered to do hair and makeup for me and the bridal party