- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
I’ve been with my SO for almost 7 years now and we’ve always been long distance (he’s from NZ and I’m from NY), making the relationship not the easiest in the book. In addition to talking for about 2 hours at least, almost every day, every year, we’ve made trips back and forth and have gotten to know our potential in-laws. The thing that kills me is that on my trip there last year, we had talked about getting engaged and it was generally expected all around. I spent a little over a month there and during my last week, got very sick (I have chronic tonsillitis, even without tonsils!) He cancelled his surprise trip to a city nearby to take me to the hospital so I could get some medication for it but didn’t mention the trip until maybe a few days before I was supposed to fly back home. At that point I was already inwardly upset that he hadn’t proposed especially since we had gone to a jeweler to see about custom designing the ring in my first week there. I would’ve been happy if I just had an engagement twist tie off the loaf of bread! But I asked him about it after I got home and got to hear plenty, “Are you engaged yet? No? Well . . hmm.” That’s when he told me about the cancelled trip that would’ve put that twist tie on my finger.
Fast forward to now: I’m graduating in May of next year and will be moving down to New Zealand to start a life with him. He’s promised I’ll be engaged before I step foot in an airport terminal which gives me a set two week time frame . . but it’s 10 months from now! I don’t know what’s worse, knowing the small window or knowing how far off that small window is. Maybe it’s just frustrating because I know it could’ve happened last year if I hadn’t gotten sick. Either way, we’re in this awkward place where we’ve pretty much chosen a date, have a rough guest list and I’m doing research on vendors, venues, and dresses where we will have our home and a small live-feed event in my hometown. I don’t think his family knows anything either so I’m the crazy girl without a ring who is planning a wedding. Have I said I hated waiting?