(Closed) A big, angry, family vent.

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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11327 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

holy crap that is annoying. I’d make HER do the uninviting since she got you into this mess. good lord. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I’d demand that she call your sisters and tell them that she made a mistake.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

she should seriously respect yours and your FI’s decision. it isn’t like it just affects you. you made this choice as a team. she needs to stop being so damn controlling.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Oh my Gosh, that is some mess you are in. My fuse would blow! It’s time to set everyone straight. I would talk to your fiance, ask everyone to come over (if you are in the same city) and tell them what you and your fiance has decided. You don’t want any interferring because it is making too much stress and problems that shouldn’t be there. What your mom has done is very rude. Then I would call your sisters yourself because it sounds like your mom would do some back talking about you to them because you won’t go her way.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

city hall time!!!!

Post # 10
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

WOW!  I dont even know where to start with this.  First and formost as much as I love my mother and her opinion she was not involved in choosing the dress I am going to walk down the isle in.  My dress is white with A LOT of RED.  Now although this is starting to by a trend quite a few people in my family raised their eyebrows.  🙂  But I love it and thats what matters.  No one else has to wear the dress and its my moment.  My FH loves it.  I took one look at it and just knew it was the dress I was meant to walk down the isle in.  In my most honest opinion I think you should browse the wedding shops online find the ones that call to you, then go to the shop with the list to try on and see what you like on yourself.  Once you have made a decision or at least have it down to a few favs then take the pics to family members if you would like their input and have them tell you which they like most out of YOUR list.  Regarding the children at the wedding, if you do not want children at your wedding and your invitations say so then that should be the final decision, call your sisters and let them A. This is your wedding not your mothers  B. The final decision to not have children at the wedding is final  C.  Your sorry for the call informing them differently.  I would not say miscommunication because after all if these are your sisters then they are very well aware of how your mother is and know for a fact this was no “miscommunication”.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yep, Vegas would be my first suggestion too. Go get hitched by Elvis and then tell her that she can call around (since she’s so good at that) and tell everyone the big wedding is off. 

Sorry for your troubles, date twin :/

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@HisEmpress: Well said. I would do a phone conference to tell them all at once

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If no one can tell your mom anything, then unfortunately this is going to fall to you. Since these are your sisters though, I’m assuming you can just call them and say something like “You know how mom is. I’m so sorry, but she misunderstood- we really can’t have kids at the wedding” or some variation on that. THEN call your mom and let her know you’ve worked it out with your sisters, and the decision is final. If she gives you any more “it’s not that kind of wedding,” you remind her that it’s your wedding, so it’s up to you what kind of wedding it is. Sometimes the only way to deal with moms like this is to hit right back!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am with Miss Taco Night!

What a crappy situation!!! Vegas sounds good LOL

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I guess at least it’s your sister’s kids she invited. It should be a lot easier to tell your sisters that they can’t come than random people invited to the wedding. But wtf!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

MY Gosh..Really!!!THe nerve of people. Whoose wedding is it? My goodness what a mess. I am so sorry. Just stay strong, bite the bullet and call those people up and tell them no children. Dont tell your FI yet, to start another argument. Just fix this on your own. Dont try to get your stubborn mother to do it.Because you wont know for sure that she did…Just do it yourself. ITs your wedding you and your FI decision. Stay strong girl…

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