(Closed) a bit bummed

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I showed my honey 6 different Sophia Tolli dresses when I was looking.  He said 5 of them were nice, but whatever I did I should avoid the 6th one… Well, that was the dress I had already bought.

He freely admits that he was way off base, and was so glad I ignored him!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

FI’s family saw pics of me in the dress and I got one “interesting dress” and one “looks like a… tulip?” (I have a trumpet dress).  Also both friends I took shopping with me said they would’ve picked ballgowns if they were me. One friend I showed my dress to said it was very pretty, then while looking thru my cell photos she found a pic of me in an awful dress I’d tried on a while before and asked “this is your dress right?”. So…yeah. You’re not alone.

I think I posted about half a dozen dress anxiety threads here and got much needed reassuring from the Bees. Which one of those is your dress? We can reassure you too – and we’re honest 🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I showed my hubby my dress before the wedding – without him knowing it and he had the same reaction. And it made me 2nd guess it all! BUT, I stayed with it and in the end he LOVED it. So, don’t worry about it – the model doesn’t do as much for the dress as you will!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Everyone is different and everyone likes something different. I like gowns with no embellishments and clean lines. my friend who went with me didnt like it very much. NOW I was upset at first but then i remembered whenever she talks about her dress she wants to wear BIG POOFY beweled out dress with a tiara. so we obviously have different tastes so how could we agree? we cant, its as simple as that ! SO you should be happy with your dress and thats all that matters. I know i am 😉

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ok, honestly? That pic keeps popping up for me in ads too and it’s my dream dress!!! I even looked thru preownedwedding dresses when I was shopping to find who’s the designer and I just couldn’t find it. I love that photo so much I’m getting a mantilla made and that’s one of my inspirations. I’m soooo glad that’s your dress because 1) it’s gorgeous and I’m happy for you 2) you can finally tell me the designer/model LaughingToo bad you’re getting married after me or I’d beg you to sell it to me as a second dress!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Your dress is gorgeous! 

I think it can be hard for people to set aside their own unconscious style preferences when it comes to things like this – particularly if you’re not standing in front of them wearing the item in question.

Either way, if it’s your dream dress you’ll look incredible no matter what. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

my dress was hard for most people to compliment until the wedding day because it was custom made and looked so bizarre until two days before the wedding.  i experienced some skepticism (especially from my very modest mom as I kept telling the seamstress “cut it lower!” “make the neck deeper”)

Post # 12
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1757 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That dress is *beautiful*! Don’t second guess yourself.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Everyone wanted and kept insisting I keep searching for a “bridal gown”, an all white full of sequins and lace, with a train to be bustled and everything.

I bought a bridesmaid dress in all white. It’s a little longer than knee-length on me because I had to buy a bigger size (but am thinking of having it shortened back to about knee-length), with tulle peeking out. No train. A little bow. No other flowers or anything. It’s simple. It’s me.

I’m happy with it, and I don’t really care if others aren’t fond of it. They aren’t wearing it. I am.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Is that Vera Wang? It looks just like a gorgeous VW I was eyeballing the other day…

Anyway, beautiful dress either way, and when they see you in it, they’ll agree! Dresses look different on the models and in pictures than they do in real life, and lace detailing can’t be done justice by a picture online. 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I had the opposite reaction. I long ago decided that I hate my dress, so I figured no harm showing FI as it won’t be the one I wear on my day. He gasped. He thinks I look gorgeous…. Oh, well.

Before I went shopping, I showed him dresses online to get a feel for what he likes or doesn’t like (as I do sort of feel that I am getting dressed for him that day), and we were mostly in agreement so I am sure that whatever I do end up with he’ll love just as much.

alice — I am sure you are right that she was commenting from a quick browser’s perspective while probably thinking for herself. And with everyone else, that’s why there are so many different style dresses out there. Not everyone is going to like the same thing. I think as long as the bride feel good in it and is happy, that’s the most important thing!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think it’s beautiful.  Did she know you meant the dress for yourself and not for her?  I have told my mom I don’t like something thinking she was showing it for me and then she tells me it’s for her and I sometimes change my opinion.

FYI – I don’t think I heard any of my family say they loved my dress.  My FMIL said she thought my FI would love it and my mom said it was me but other than that I don’t think I heard anything.  Of course most of them were crying because I was so maybe it didn’t need to be said. 🙂  Or I couldn’t hear from the ear to ear smile I was sporting.  I don’t know.  But even so, they could’ve said they hated it and I was buying it anyways.  It’s not for them to wear.

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