(Closed) A bit of a hard waiting day

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1059 posts
Bumble bee

Awwww!!!! Don’t be sad – you at least know it’s coming and he has made some real steps, like getting the book! I think you’ve been doing great. Remember, just take it one day at a time and be happy that you found your forever person!

I know how you feel about it not happening on your birthday but maybe thinking that this might be your last birthday as a single lady will help? I don’t know. I’m imagining how it would be if it were my birthday and I think I would just be a general kind of cranky, so don’t really have any helpful advice on that front!



Post # 4
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@biochic75:  You’ll get there! I know it’s easier said than done, but just try not to drive yourself crazy thinking about it. At least you know he’s thinking about it! Just try to distract yourself with other things and get on the bee to vent! We’ll listen and we understand!

Post # 5
5967 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

You need a fabulous Halloween costume immediately!  Not only is it your birthday, but you deserve it for waiting so patiently.  Find something great, line up a costume party somewhere and go win the contest!  If you can’t get a ring you should at least get a trophy!

Post # 6
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Nona99:  +1!!! There is this amazing woman from England who costom makes full length coats out of wool on Etsy and she is amazing! one of her coats would be perfect for halloween. She is called SpiralGypsy. check her out

Post # 7
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It is so so so natural to feel how you’re feeling and your feelings are totally valid. That being said, you might wanna consider actively trying to direct your thoughts to something other than your expectations (fun birthday plans? halloween?) because in cases like this, your expectations are sometimes just chains weighing you down.

Let me tell you a story. Last Christmas, for some craaaaazy reason, I thought SO was gonna propose. It would have been way too soon but I had a gut feeling I could not ignore! He gave me my present way at the end of present-opening time. There it was, a little black jewelry box! And inside– earrings. These are my favorite earrings. I am literally wearing them now. Thank goodness I’m a good actor, because my heart was broken when I saw them. Only when I let go of my expectations did I feel immense love for him buying me jewelry and happiness that he has good taste. I learned my lesson: expectations can stop me from really living so I should not encourage them! Just my 2 cents 🙂

Post # 9
605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

Don’t worry! I got told recently that he bought the ring (yay!) but I won’t be seeing it at all this year! (boo!!!!!) 🙁

Post # 10
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Agree with Nona99:

Dressing up for Hallowe’en is FABULOUS !!

I have lots of great “couples” memories from my dating life that revolve around this holiday.  Cool if you can work out a costume theme that coordinates the two of you together (make it a project the two of you can work on / get into).

Even at our ages, Mr TTR (over 60) and I (over 50) have been known to get into the spirit(s) [double pun] and find a way to turn an otherwise blah October Weeknight into a FUN event (kids tend to love it when they ring the doorbell and find the two of us dressed up too)


Post # 11
340 posts
Helper bee

I am in your exactly same boat! I don’t have a timeline, but pretty sure before the end of the year! We just gotta stay busy and know it is coming!

Post # 12
1059 posts
Bumble bee

I just pm-ed you this, but I think everytime you feel down or feel like bringing it up you should do a silly dance. Very mature, I know, but it will definitely help you feel better!

Post # 14
40 posts

@biochic75:  ooh i’m in the same boat, girl… pretty sure it will happen before the end of the year but no clue when!! let’s just try and keep calm, yeah? will be hard, no doubt… xx

Post # 15
764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I know how you feel 🙁 I got all teary eyed today … you would think it would make a difference even though you KNOW its coming … well it doesn’t and we have no clue why he’s taking sooooo long … I hate when he says Soon ! … sorry

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