A bit of ring regret….missing my old set.

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’d suggest having your husband re-propose and do a new vow exchange just the two of you – even over dinner or on a nice relaxed night – I think you just want these to feel special – and the new set is beautiful.  Even do a photo of the two of you with the new rings and hang it – I think that will help you move on 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@thirdtimeisthecharm:  that’s a great idea! That just might be what you’re missing, OP. The new set is beautiful!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’ve never understood asking someone to “re-propose” just because soneone gets a new ring..seems weird and pushy. 

anyway. Is it the size difference that’s making you miss it so much? I used to wear a small ring on my ring finger and when my FI proposed with a much larger ring I missed my little one just because bigger rings kind of get in the way. 

It really is beautiful though! 

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Not to further complicate your situation, but, are you still within the exchange period on your new set? If so, do you think you would be happier if you could choose something that is more similar to your original set?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@ChellFish22:  I’d give it some time. like you said, it is a pretty big change from your original set. I don’t know I guess try to focus on the sentiment that went into picking the new ring with  your husband and im sure the sentimental value will come with time!! 

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I can relate. Up until about a month ago I wore a solitaire and eternity band and now I have a chunky and awesome halo ring as my wedding ring. Even though my new ring is the ring of my DREAMS I occasionally find myself missing my solitaire, even though when I had it I was just kinda “meh” about it.

I think it’s normal to feel nostalgic about the ring you got engaged/married with in the first few months of having a new one. I am sure after you have this one for awhile and get to have some experiences with it you’ll build a strong attachment.  

As I have said before, your new ring is spectacular and I am so pleased you went with the pear! Laughing

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

oh my gosh…I could have written your post!!!  I’m dealing with the same thing 🙁 My dh had bought me a beautiful right hand ring this past May…we actually picked it out together. I LOVED it and it was totally my dream ring….anyway….not long after getting it I realized I needed sizing beads put in..no big deal, well…they took FOREVER to get it done, no one at the store knew what was going on etc..etc…took almost 3 weeks to get it back.  Fast forward a couple weeks….the yellow gold on the ring (it was two tone) started to look odd…I took it back to the store, they sent it out….5 weeks later I FINALLy get my ring back again…have it a week and the whole center of the ring fell out! (( Totally made a long story as short as I could)) At this point I was done with the ring…even though I loved it I decided I wasn’t going to wait for them to fix it AGAIN.

I talked with the store manager and they let me pick something else.  I should have waited for when my dh could come with me, but I was anxious and went by myself to the store…that was my first mistake.  I ended up picking something that really didn’t look much like my first ring…the only thing similiar is the fact they both have a halo and the shape of the center stone is close to what I had before…but that’s where the similiar features stop….pretty much everything I loved about the first ring I don’t have in the new one. I do think my new ring is pretty, but it’s not the original 🙁  I didn’t think it would bother me so much, but about 2 week after getting the new ring….it really started too…so much to the point now I can’t even wear the new one.  Dh asked me last night why I don’t wear it and I just told him that because it’s cold out it doesn’t fit that well….which is part of the truth, but not the whole reason.

 

sorry this was so long…..but I totally feel your pain 🙁

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think both sets are beautiful! Hopefully you just need time to adjust to the new set.

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