Post # 1
PLEASE make sure to gift your bridal party with something they’ll actually like. What’s the sense in wasting your money on something that they’ll never use?
Everyday I walk by the brand spanking new personalized flask that FI got as his best man gift for his brothers wedding and I can’t help but get a little aggrivated. When FI was gifted with the flask his brother said, and I quote, “You’re not going to like this”. Umm…. why would you gift someone with something that you know they’re not going to like? His brother was right, FI didn’t like it and now, 2 years later, it has still NEVER been used.
The moral of my story… something may seem like a good idea but you really need to think about the people you’re gifting it to. If your best man really doesn’t drink and would certainly never resort to needing a flask, then it’s probably not the best thanks-for-shelling-out-an-outrageous-amount-of-money-to-be-in-my-wedding gift.
Post # 3
SO true! Also… if you tell your bridal party they’ll be getting a certain gift, GIVE it.
My poor FI was supposed to get a flask (maybe you should trade?! ha!) from his cousin’s wedding last spring that he was the best man in…. never got one. That cousin and a friend who is also in that wedding are FIs groomsmen…
I asked him what he wanted to give them. FI said um, nothing? 🙂 Well, friend can have something, but nothing for cousin 🙂
I won’t let him do that but I think it’s pretty funny he’s still upset about it.
Post # 4
@thewheelsonthebus: Lol, we joked about crossing FI’s name off of the flask and writing over it with my FBIL’s name but we didn’t think that he would find it anywhere near as funny as we do.
I was jiped out of a BP gift once too. My friend ordered us jewelry off of this website where apparently you just pay for shipping and the jewelry is free (yep, she told us this, lol). Well, the pendants that she ordered us didn’t come in in-time for the wedding so we were gifted with a cheapy silver chain that turned our necks green. That was it. We never got those pendants.
To be honest, it was kind of a slap in the face since I shelled out well over $1k for her wedding.
Post # 5
@UpstateCait: Oh jeez. Green necks. That’s nice! I still haven’t decided what I’ll give my sucky bridesmaid and my other bridesmaid and her two little girls, either. FI and I did sort of decide that not everyone needed the same gift though.
I think we’re leaning towards bourbon or whiskey for one of his cousins, books or a dvd set for his friend, and a gift card or tools for his other cousin.
I may just do a gift card for my friend who has too much stuff as it is and a build a bear for the girls and some sort of gift card for their mom.
Need more time… and more money to figure it all out 🙂
Post # 6
We got the best man a capcatcher–he’ll love it.
the other two guys we really don’t know what to do! One might like a flask, the other would HATE it (like your FI).
Luckily for my ladies, I kind of just got them a cool present like a birthday present type thing–different for each lady. I hope they like them! One is a crystal necklace, one is a bracelet and earrings, one is a crystal hairclip. (also got them a mini kit with notecards, candles, etc)
Post # 8
@ellabee: I think I’m getting FI a capcatcher for his birthday 🙂
Post # 9
@ellabee: We want to get the capcatchers too, we only have a little over two weeks and FI is reluctant becuase he wants to see whatever he gets for them in person. I’ve tried explaining that this isn’t really possible…if you’ve ordered and received already do they look nice? Did it meet your expectations?
Post # 10
@sailor: Uh oh…I’m actually giving my girls wristlets but I think they will genuinely like them. I got designer wristlets (Kate Spade) in styles and colors that suit each girl, and all my girls go out on the town so they’d have a use for these. It helps, of course, that most of them haven’t been in weddings before!
Wristlets and something small and fun for the girls, and we got bar accessory kits for the guys and will accompany those with a bottle of each guy’s favorite spirit (rum, cognac, etc). We really hope they love them, and are pretty sure they will.
Post # 11
@sailor: Lol, so true! I can definitely understand in cases like BunnyBrideToBe, where the girls haven’t been in a ton of weddings. Once you have, though, it’s like please! Don’t bury me in another Coach wristlet!
Post # 12
i once was gifted a necklace to wear in the wedding and a ginormous heart shaped candle. what i was supposed to do with the candle, not quite sure. the darn thing just took up space before i finally gave it to my mom who got tired of seeing it on the floor.
definitely gift something that is nice with an obvious use! that would be much appreciated.
@sailor: i actually have never received a clutch and would love one as a gift. sure would beat the pants off that candle.
Post # 13
I got my BM’s Coach picture frames. They are 5*7 and they came in black and brown so I picked the color that I associated with each of them (since I think most of us are either black girls or brown girls). My sister has a vinyl lettering machine that uses for her side business, and it has come in quite handy. We used it for our centerpieces for the head table, our water bottle labels, and our hangers. The wire BM’s hangers are really cute, but too expensive, as I have 8 BM’s. So, I bought wood hangers in white, and spelled out their names using the vinyl lettering. Sooooo much easier and less expensive. Thinking about putting some ribbon or some bling on there. I havent decided yet but Im going to put the hangers and the Coach pic frames in a gift bag that I got from oriental trading that says BM on it. I am also going to put some kind of thank you note or poem in the pic frame when I give it to them and I have on my list of photos for the photographer to take a pic of me and each one of the BM’s so they can put our pic in that frame if they want to.
Post # 14
I agree. So far my husband has a personalized mug that sits in our storage room and a personalized puzzle/coaster set that is in the trash. I have a clutch and necklace that just aren’t my style and have both gone to Goodwill. What a waste!
Post # 15
@UpstateCait: I think i want a flask lol.
But yea, I have a box full of cheap jewlery that i got as BM gifts that i never wore again after the wedding. The members of our bridal party are very different people with very diffrent tastes and interests so we are going to buy individualzed gifts. We are going to get everyone something we would get them for christmas or for their birthday. Why waste money on something that gonna collect dust?
Post # 16
yeah…i struggled we struggled with this one, too. I looked at jewelery sets and ultimately decided against it. Why give someone jewelery you know they really won’t wear again??
I just went yesterday to the Coach outlet and got each BM a cute wristlet in a color/style that I thought they would like. Cute, simple, and something I know they’ll all use!
I still don’t know what to get the groomsmen…