Post # 1
What is the etiquette here? I am a maid of honor and my friend is having a very intimate destination wedding. She’s inviting immediate family and a few close friends. However, I would love to throw her a bridal shower and stagette. I know it’s generally considered rude to invite people to these things who aren’t invited to the wedding, but what if it was stipulated somehow on the invite that while the wedding was going to be very small and intimate, we still wanted to celebrate? Is this acceptable or rude?
Post # 3
I had a small wedding with just family. My friends and colleagues totally wanted to celebrate though! I had a small work shower and then my friends through a bachelorette party for me. Maybe do it with just her closest friends who aren’t invited? I would start by talking to some of these people and seeing how they feel about things. I wouldn’t do anything big, and still keep things small though.
For example, on my friends side…they started with a late “shower” and then there was the bar/dinner stuff. Some came to one and not the other, some to both.
Post # 4
@jules28: id say stagette is more fine as its a celebration but not a gift giving occasion. its just a fun night with friends. but still, people might be offended its hard to say
thing is, if people are invited to a bridal shower (ie a gift giving occasion) it might look a bit greedy. “you cant come to my wedding but give me a present”. this is how a lot of people think. only you know if people would react that way