- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Hey all, I need to vent about my family wedding issues. Please let me know if I’m being crazy or not. Sorry this is so long…
A quick rundown: My FI and I are paying for everything (I’m ok with this, times are tough right now). We bought a deal off of Groupon for a wedding ceremony and 2 nights stay at Treasure Island in Vegas for $700 (a $1600 value). Following the ceremony we’re going to have cake and champagne in our suite then have a night on the town with all of our guests (way cheaper than a reception). My parent’s never seemed too thrilled with our getting married but now that we have a date set it seems to get worse.
The first meltdown was when my mother forwarded our wedding rsvp website to all of her friends and my extended family (none of which were going to be invited due to a 50 seat limit for the ceremony). When I called asking her if she sent out the website she immediately started crying (I was not rude or angry in the way I called, I just wanted to know why people I hadn’t seen in over 10 years were RSVP’ing for my wedding before paper invites were even sent). This phone call turned into her complaining that none of HER friends were going to be there. THEN it was how her, my father and sister wouldn’t be able to stay after the ceremony (planning on flying out from PHX to Vegas for a few hours just to attend and go back home). She even had the nerve to ask if I was inviting them (my immediate family) WTF!?
Yesterday I went to my parents’ house because my sister is in town from Denver. My FI’s cousin and mother offered to make the bridesmaids dresses for us (they do amazing work and are always looking for things like this to do). When I tried showing my sisters a few patterns they didn’t even look at them. Instead they both started telling me how they were going to go dress shopping and pick something out because they didn’t have time to get fitted, when I said that wasn’t going to be a problem it turned into how they don’t like when people make stuff for them and so on. Both of them proceeded to show me the dresses THEY found online. Most of them cost around $150-200; WAY more expensive then I would ever ask them to spend (they didn’t even know what shade of blue I wanted them to be in). I couldn’t believe it. I don’t know what to do with them.
As for my mom that day. Everything we had planned for the wedding she had issues with. Since the ceremony is out of town I tried to compromise wither her by hosting a little get together at our place when we get back for those who couldn’t make it (so she can spend time with her friends, on our dime). When she asked about when that would be I told her it would be about a week after we get back from our honeymoon (a few extra days in Vegas and a week in San Diego). She then told me how that if we waited too long it doesn’t matter/count any more. Then the issue about it being in Vegas came up again and how they were going to have to fly there (it’s a 4 ½ drive from their house) and it was sooo expensive. After that she then proceeded to tell me how her friend told her that we could have easily found a place for under $2000 to rent for the wedding in the Phoenix area (I looked, trust me, and she doesn’t understand that the venue rental doesn’t include seating, tables, food, music, etc.). The whole day went on like this.
I always feel so depressed after I talk about the wedding with any of my family members. At least my FI’s family (whom I am very close to) is supportive and upbeat. I’m on the verge of not involving my family with any more of the planning. I tried to be nice and include them but now it’s costing my happiness and sanity!
**pant** wow, that was long haha.