Post # 1
I need help fellow bees. I am once again venturing out for my wedding dress. I have been dreading this appointment for over a month. Most brides are happy when choosing a dress but I am utterly terrified. This all started about two months ago when I found my original dress. I went shopping with one of my best friends, who is also a bm. We had our hearts set on finding the one. This was the 3rd trip to a bridal salon that we had made and we just knew that it was going to be the day for THE dress. We met with my bridal consultant who I liked immediately. By far the most positive experience. I tried on 5 or 6 dresses and was in LOVE with 2 of them. My bm asked if there was any dress in the place that could mesh those 2 dress that I just couldn’t decide upon. Thats when the AH HA moment went off in my bridal consultants head. There just so happened to be the dress. As soon as she brought it into the room I was in LOVE. I tried on the dress and of course the sample size was too small, did I mention I was a plus sized bride. It didn’t matter though, I knew it was the one. My bm and I were crying! YES, crying. Who does that? So we took my measurements and ordered the dress. I was trilled! I told everyone about this perfect dress and I could finally invision our perfect day!
Two weeks later: The horror story part.
I recieved a phone call while i was at work and it was my bridal consultant telling me that we had a serious problem! Oh no! I couldnt imagine what could go wrong. Apparently while ordering my dress from the designer she happened to overlook that that particular dress isn’t available in plus sizes. Even though 90% of the dresses by that designer are. She gave me two options. Option 1: make it fit. (this option for those of you who haven’t struggled with a weight issue your entire life may not realize was not really what I wanted to hear. I am not going to be one of those brides that buys a dress 4 sizes too small and have the illusion that I can fit into it on my wedding day. Yes I understand that I can lose weight, but what happens if I push myself to lose all this weight and my dress still doesn’t fit on my wedding day. Pretty depressing right?) Option 2: Find a new dress! Yikes! My consultant to make up for her mistake found another very similar dress from the same designer and had it personally shipped to the salon for me at no extra cost. Its a gorgeous dress, but will I be able to love it as much?
Help me hive, I need a confidence booster!
Post # 3
Oh hon…this is not a happy story. Sorry to hear about it. Well I am with you that Option 1 isn’t an Option…I am kind of shocked that it was given to you as an option. I am with you 100% you buy what fits you, you are perfect the way you are. I would go try on the new dress, and see how you feel (you never know you might have a second moment of triumph). If you don’t feel 100% in it, don’t go for it. Keep looking. Try searching online for your dress by name and terms similar and plus size, and see what pops up. Maybe there is something out there that is 99.9% exactly the same and will make you just as happy.
Post # 4
Is there any way that you can order the largest size she does sell and find matching fabric to alter is and ‘make it fit’ that way, while trying consciously to make healthy choices and maybe slim down a bit? I’m so sorry! What about finding a seamstress who can make the dress for you?
Post # 5
Do not force yourself to lose a ton of weight to fit into your wedding dress. You’re going to stress yourself out so much that you won’t be able to do it. You owe it to yourself to treat your body with more respect than that.
That being said, don’t give up yet either. Can you take a picture of the dress to a seamstress to have it custom-made in your size? Can you get a seamstress to look at the dress in the store to see if it can be altered to fit you?
Also, the similar dress that the consultant ordered might be just as wonderful. I know this is a really sucky situation, but it’s going to work out in the end and you’ll have an awesome dress. Keep your chin up!
Post # 6
@MrsBrightSkies: Thanks! I’m planning on going tomorrow for the appointment and my FI is going with me. He is insisting. He wants to be there for support even though originally he didn’t want to see me in the dress until the big day.
Post # 7
i’m so sorry to hear that!
and i’m soooooo glad number one is not an optioin for you! i’m very proud of you! you had a great experience with that consultant and she seems to be a big help and knows what you want…. therefore i’m pretty confident it will be a happy ending 🙂
good luck!!! and let us know how it went!
Post # 8
Just an update for those who wanted to know. I went back to the dress salon today and tried on the new dress. At first I was really bummed because the dress was to small so I couldn’t really invision it for the big day. I was really freaking out and I just couldn’t enjoy the dress. I was about to give up completely on the dress until I looked at my friend who came with me and was like “hey, this dress is your size, do you mind being my manaquin?” so while I was wearing a dress with of the same design, without the lace she was wearing my dress. It really helped and made me laugh because there we were standing all alone in the room both wearing wedding dresses. I did fall in love again with the new dress. Plus the bridal shop felt so bad about everything that had happened they discounted the new dress 15% and gave me a veil. Happy to say that the day ended on a great note! Thanks for all the support. It really helped me actually go to my appointment today!
Post # 9
I’m glad this has a happy ending. Post some pictures!
Post # 10
Im so glad everythign worked out for you! It was very nice of the bridal shop to go out of their way to make you happy when you read so many other horror stories of bridal stores on the internet. Be sure you leave them a nice review and send a thank you note if you thought their service was exceptional!