Post # 1
I heard a story once of a bride who had about 6 bridesmaids and for the whole entire day they pretty much ignored her – they didn’t help her and were much more interested in themselves.
So I’m wondering, what do you expect from your bridesmaids? When do you expect their “duties” to end?
Ladies who are already married, were your BMs as supportive as you would have liked?
Post # 3
Voted wrong, meant to say “take time for herself but be available if the bride needs it.” While I don’t think a BM should be waiting on the bride hand and foot, I think they should be around for minor errands. Show up, stand by my side, and help me find a safety pin if I need one.
Post # 4
I say – can take time to themselves but should help the bride if she needs it.
Are you her friend or what? It doesn’t mean this gives the bride a passport to be a demanding bitch but give me a break – help the girl out if you can. Otherwise..why did you sign up for it? At least offer to help when needed on the wedding day itself.
Post # 5
My ONLY expectations are as follows:
Show up – on time, with all the belongings she needs (from dress, to shoes, to undergarments), relax, have FUN, cooperate for pictures (ie, stay nearby), and dance…all night 🙂 (ok, not all night, but at least for a song or two with me!).
My vote is to enjoy herself, and yet be available if/when needed, which is really not a whole lot – in my book anyways.
Post # 6
I did not expect much of my bridesmaids, just show up, stand for the ceremony and have fun. They were great and would help me if needed without my asking, such as hold my bouquet, hold my train, get me something if I couldn’t myself for some reason. My MOH especially went above and beyond, but I loved all my girls and couldn’t have made it through the day so calmly without them. Their duties ended at the start of cocktail hour, but they still made themselves available throughout the night (came with me to help my change into my reception dress.)
If you expect more from them, ask but don’t boss them around. They’re your BMs but also honored guests at your wedding and I think people forget that. I feel the BMs will help the bride out because they love her, not because they feel obligated.
Post # 7
I expect fuck all from mine. I’m not having a batchelorette party or anything after they informed me that they weren’t interested or prepared to help me organize one. It’s a really good job that I’m so laid back frankly. I don’t even like one of them but she’s my FSIL so shame for me.
ETA: if I had my time again I wouldn’t have any BMs. They’re just an extra significant expense in my view!
Post # 8
The bridesmaids/Bridesman I had, honestly, all I wanted them to do what show up, and have fun. So whatever that option is in the poll!
Post # 9
I don’t expect anything from my bridal party. They should be able to enjoy my day as the extra special guests. As my dear friends, they’ll help out if I need something and generally make me happy just by being there, but they aren’t staff and they won’t have duties.