Post # 1
Hello, bees! I’ve been having some anxiety over my ring choice…any words of wisdom on how to deal with “the ring that got away?”
My SO and I went ring shopping at two different local jewelers this week. At jewelry store #1, we picked out a beautiful but simple rose gold solitaire that highlights our center stone really well. I asked for a few days to think about the setting before giving the jeweler the go-ahead, and my SO and I decided to hit up one more store in the meantime.
At jewelry store #2, I fell in LOVE with a more ornate, tulip-pronged rose gold setting. It was stunning and completely unique! At this point, we decided to go back to jeweler #1, buy the diamond only and return to jeweler #2 for the setting.
Back at jewelry store #1, we showed the jeweler (who I should add is a trusted family friend) a picture of the ornate tulip prong setting and he strongly advised us against it. He said that the thicker prongs would obscure the center stone and make it look a lot smaller. Additionally, he felt that down the line, we’d have a lot of issues with the small stones on the prongs and the gallery falling out and getting lost.
I was torn, but my wonderful, logical SO made the decision to purchase the simpler but sturdier solitaire setting. I was thrilled, and I will say that the setting is very classic and pretty. However, I find myself sneaking peeks at pics of the ring we didn’t buy. I don’t want to seem ungrateful, but I worry that I wil regret not choosing the setting I truly loved more.
What’s done is done, and the ring will be ready in about 3 weeks. How do I get over feeling like a made a wrong choice?
(I’ve included pics so you can see what I’ve been obsessing over…)
Post # 3
@NurseAllie85: Uh if it makes you feel any better, I like the simple solitaire you chose 10000000 times more than that other setting!!! It looks way too over the top IMHO, and like it would scratch your fingers, and also I agree about the teeny tiny stones being a pain. If you really think you cant get over it, why not go buy a super similar costime piece for your stand in or your right hand?
Post # 4
I feel the simple setting will be much more timeless. When I’m looking at the second setting, all I can think of is how long it’d take to clean(i do agree it’s pretty).
Post # 5
I like the 2nd setting, but only in white gold. I think since you’re going with rose gold, the first setting will look better.
Post # 6
@NurseAllie85: I’m sure the 2nd setting is gorgeous (with all that sparkly diamonds) but I’m really not a fan of the “diamond encrusted prongs”, eventually it’ll give you lots of problems. Even tho you didn’t post a top view but I feel that ring#2 is too busy looking!
I’m all for simple/classic solitaire and pair with a “killer” band.
Congrats on your engagement.
Post # 7
Thanks everyone for the reality check!! I think I just got distracted for a minute by all the sparkly things. I’m really excited to see my finished ring and, more importantly, to marry my amazing fiancee!
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
I definitely prefer the simple setting. It is timeless, less fussy and allows the diamond to be the focus and truly shine.
Post # 9
@NurseAllie85: The solitaire will be gorgeous! I simple solitaire is timeless, elegant and you will likely feel more comfortable wearing it all the time. The second setting is pretty, but I would be so worried aout losing stones, I’d have to do hourly diamond checks!
Post # 10
@NurseAllie85: If you really love the bling and sparkle, why not go shopping for a blingy wedding band? I love your solitaire, and the rose gold.
A little secret: we all think about the other rings we could have had. Don’t worry, you’re not alone. With the possibilities being so endless these days, we always wonder if we didn’t choose the right one. It’s the paradox of choice. Here’s my favorite Ted Talk of all time, it will help ease your mind, I promise.
Post # 11
I think that once you have the ring on your finger, you’ll likely forget about the more ornate setting.
If you don’t, then I would see if there is some sort of return window. And I agree with PP – you could find a blingy wedding band.
Post # 12
While the second one is beautiful, I think it will likely be something that’s a ring-crush. Your ring is classic, beautiful, and something you will love for a lifetime.
Also – you can always get super sparkly band, or a wrap!
Post # 13
Honestly, I love the ring you bought so much more, the simple setting is so elegant. And I think you will love how practical it is too once you have it for a while!
Post # 14
I prefer the second one because I like more ornate settings, but once the ring is on your finger, I think you will still love it. Plus you can go all out for the wedding band.
Post # 15
What size is your center diamond, I feel like those thick prongs on the ornate ring might actually overwhelm a center stone somewhat. I would be disappointed more if that were to happen.
Regarding your solitare, I went through similar emotions. My FI was very concerned with the “sturdiness” of the ring and he chose a simple setting for me much like yours. And when I look at it on my finger, I love that he chose it for me. He’s very proud of it, and the process he went through to pick it out for me, and that makes me love it. Maybe you will feel the same way. Plus you have lots of options for picking out a wedding band to go with it. 🙂
Post # 16
@NurseAllie85: I think you made a beautiful and classic choice! I have a similar prong setting to the one you liked, and your jeweller is right — the sideview of the diamond is totally obstructed. I actually don’t even remember what mine looks like! My mom has a 4 prong ring and I often look at her ring from the side and it is so pretty! While my setting is very delicate, there is more metal than a simple solitaire. I don’t really miss or regret being able to see the side of the stone, but a lot of people would. I also have pave on the prongs but they’re pretty high quality micro prong set stones. I’m not too worried about it, and I have started to shower/sleep with my ring on with no problems.
If you do want some sparkle/bling, add some pave bands instead! The great thing about a solitaire is that you can dress it up or down 🙂