- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
What do you think?
What do you think?
Someone said other. I should have required a comment if you said other.
Can you add one more category? One of the more interesting conversations I saw on this forum was people who used the word “cheater” in reference to BOTH parties in an affair, even if one was single. To me, this seems incorrect, since the third person, while perhaps morally culpable, is not a cheater since they weren’t cheating on anyone, but there was some strong disagreement there, the argument being that perhaps they were cheating on a socially recognized contract, or that by enabling cheating they were in fact cheating themselves. I’d like to see if peope vote for that one.
Also you might want to make it so people can choose more than one option…I feel like many would agree with multiple answers here.
I chose other. I feel like, in my relationship at least, that cheating is doing anything that we couldn’t tell each other about. In other words, anything we have to keep secret in order to keep the relationship from falling apart.
ETA: in this context I would say either party who is in charge of keeping the secrect of the affair/offensive action.
… is proven a repeat offender.
I vote the person who is currently cheating. Definitely not the first choice, in my opinion.
I guess it depends on your perspective.
If you left your ex because he cheated on you, chances are you will refer to him as a “cheater” for the rest of your/his life.
If you cheated on your high school boyfriend 20 years ago and have been married to another dude since, and never strayed, chances are you don’t consider yourself a “cheater”.
I consider cheating to be engaging in intimate activities with someone who is not in your relationship. This could be physical or like an emotional affair. I don’t consider something like using porn to be cheating since it’s not with another person.
To the people who are saying that a cheater is definitely not “Someone who has cheated in the past, regardless of his/her present/future,” is that because YOU were that cheater in the past and just don’t cheat anymore?
Just wondering. Because to me, that is still a cheater. The door has been opened. The cheater may slip through the crack again in the future, whether they think they will not not.
I chose other because the time references are hard for me. Time is hard to say, because if they cheated on the person they are currently with in the past, they are still a cheater unless they have revealed that to their partner and made an amends.
Someone who is currently cheating OR someone who cheats often (on like every partner, etc). Therefore, you can be a reformed cheater lol
@canarydiamond: I like your definition. But I’d also add that I think a cheater is an adult. If you cheated on someone when you were 16 and in high school, then I don’t think you should be classified a cheater. If you’re 23 and in an adult relationship, then yes. There are a lot of people who cheated in high school who would never, ever do something like that as an adult.
i’m so coming back to this when im.on my laptop. typing on my phone sucksssss
Anyone who has/does/will cheat is a cheater.
Being a cheater is a state you enter when you take that step, you can’t go back and not cheat, and you can’t just suddenly go from a cheater to not a cheater one day, because it became “too long ago”
I don’t think expressing attraction to others is neccessarily cheating. Does that mean looking at a hot guy and apreciating his awesome body is cheating? Or is it more, “trying your luck” – Ive known people who do this often and don’t consider it cheating because they were turned down!