- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
So, this has bothered me for some time, and I’m not entirely sure if I should say something, so I’ll ask the hive for advise!
My Future Mother-In-Law is ….there is no word for her. She’s never done anything mean or hurtful directly to me. Everytime I speak with her, she’s nothing but polite and friendly. However, she is so disrecpectful to Fiance…her only child, and FI’s dad isn’t around because he was killed about 22 years ago. So it’s just Fiance and his mom. Well, Anytime I come over and I see Future Mother-In-Law before Fiance, she’ll be like “Hi! It is in his room.” or “It is still sleeping, so you’ll have to wake it up.” She refers to her son as ‘it’!! Now, I understand teasing, but to refer to a human being as ‘it’ is something I cannot get over, and for that person to be my future husband, that just doesn’t sit right with me.
Also, this past week Fiance has put in about 70 hours of work between school and his job and on Saturday when I went over to his house, he was still sleeping around noon. Now I understand that he had a busy week and needed to sleep. Future Mother-In-Law said told me that ‘it’ was still sleeping, and I said “well, he had a busy week, so he probably needs the sleep.” and she goes “Oh, don’t let him fool you, he does nothing but drink and get wasted!” That pissed me off, because I know how hard Fiance works and for his own mother to say that about him just irritates me.
My question is, should I say something to her about calling her son, and my husband-to-be ‘it’? It really bothers me that she does that and nobody else in the family seems to be bothered by that. I feel like somebody needs to say something, but I don’t know if it’s my place to say something. What should I do?