(Closed) A co-worker is getting married, not invited to the wedding, GIFT???

posted 7 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1843 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No, you don’t have to get her anything (a gift is never a requirement).  I think it would be nice for the small office to take up a collection and present her with one gift…but that’s just me.

Post # 4
2265 posts
Buzzing bee

I think if you wanted to do a gift maybe get her a card and a bottle of wine to share with her new hubby

Post # 6
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

A small something would be generous and nice, but not necessary.

Post # 7
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If I feel close to someone I will usually give a gift regardless of whether or not I’m invited.

Post # 8
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I didn’t invite any co-workers. Mainly because it was an out of state wedding but I had about 3 give me gifts and I thought it was so sweet. I will now make a point to get at least something small for people I work with. It meant a lot to me.

Post # 9
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It would be really nice of the office to do something to acknowledge the wedding. I say chip in and get her a card and gift. If you don’t want to get her something from the registry, you could buy her a gift certificate to a restaurant you know she likes, or something similar you know her and her new husband could enjoy together. You don’t have to go all out, but I think it would be nice to do something small for her.

Post # 10
59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with the group gift, or take her out for lunch, or decorate her office (I work in a male dominated healthcare facility, we put pink bows with sparkles on every chair.  My co-worker and I laugh every time we see others try to shuffle around to sit in the one non-pink bow-ed chair 🙂 )

Post # 11
2 posts
  • Wedding: July 2006

Yeah, I pretty much agree with most of the above. Give a simple gift, a personal card or a group gift, doesn’t matter, to show you still support her. She might have her own reasons for not inviting you… financial difficulties, she wants a private, intimate wedding, etc… you never know, and it’s always cool to be the graceful one 🙂

Post # 12
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think a gift is required, but a bottle of wine or a group gift of a restaurant gift certificate both sound like nice ideas if you do want to gift something.

Post # 13
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yep, I agree… the office should get together and give her something, even if it is small such as a wine bottle and card signed by all..

My thought is that if she is getting married on a Thursday afternoon, she may be on a tight budget and/or having a small wedding.

Regardless, it makes for a good work relationship to do so and its the right thing to do to show your support for your co-worker. (my team did it for a guy who worked for us even though no one really liked him. It actually made our working relationship better and he softened a little around us).


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